What would you call me?

Question

I know i should go to a doctor, i will, but im very shy with them and so if i have some idea maybe it will help...
in public with people, at work, and such i am a very happy out going person, usually too happy. Lately when im at home, i feel empty, i dont feel sad.. i feel empty, like there is no point, i want to do stuff, but i dont know how , i dont know how to make the first leap, at least thats how it feels, i have also loss my sex drive, which i did have a healthy one, maybe this is causing the emptness, but i lost it because it hurts me and so i dont want to...i just dont know... i have gone to a doctor about the pain, and well nothing wrong as usually, it normally aparently for it to be painfull and its also normally to feel sick to the stomach all the time.. im fine.. nothing wrong... so im told

I have a very loving and supportive fiance

Answer 1

Listen to me very carefully. What you are feeling is not normal and is not safe and is not healthy. If you want a reality check here it is. You sound as if you have a depression although you do not go into details I cannot tell if it is a cronic depression or severe. For the answer to this you must see a doctor. Do not wait, depression can lead to harmful thoughts, illness, risk taking and on and on. You must see a doctor and soon as possible would be best. I will promise you this, the doctor can make you feel better and life in general will get better but you must have help, do not despair just take the action and see a doctor and if you are shy hand him the question you wrote, it is a very good description of how you feel.

Answer 2

Your question is a bit confusing. You say in public you're "too happy". What does that mean? Are you faking so it feels like too much? At home, something is missing. Do you live alone? If not, go to a doctor. Write down all of your symptoms. If the doctor tells you nothing is physically wrong then ask if a mental health appointment may be more appropriate. Sex should NOT hurt. If there is nothing physically wrong, maybe you just need to use some lubrication to make it more comfortable. If irritation is not the problem and it is actual pain, then there is something wrong and you need to see another doctor. It is also not normal to feel sick in the stomach. Again that could be anxiety and a mental health appointment may be more appropriate. Don't go on this way. You need help. You deserve to be happy. If you live alone, maybe you need to get involved in something to make life more meaningful. There are many, many charitable works that you could get involved in. Check the internet or your local newspaper. Many blessings.

Answer 3

If you're a woman, find a female doctor to go to. Then you need to tell her what you've been feeling. I'm not a doctor so I caution you to take my suggestions at face value and be sure to get some advice from someone that is qualified. You may be suffering from depression. The best thing for you is do some research online starting with WebMD and go on from there. You can find a vast supply of information through then Internet. You can also go to the library and do research in their medical references. But most of all, there is absolutely nothing for you to be shy and embarrassed about. Many, many people share your symptoms, you are not alone, but you must go to a doctor. I wish you the very best of luck, there is hope and help for you, don't give up for a second.

Answer 4

Did you suffer a recent loss in your life, that you failed to have closure with? A death of a loved one, or a pet? Do you have a divorce pending, or did you suffer a break-up? This could also be a delayed reaction to a major change in your life. Did you have a baby? This could indicate a post-partum depression. Everyone handles heartache differently. This could also be organic in cause. Also, it has come to light (no pun intended) in recent years that many people suffer from SAD (seasonal affective disorder) in that the lower light intensity in Fall and Winter causes fatigue and depression. It may simply be a matter of purchasing a set of lights (they sell special units just for this) and ensuring that you are exposed to them for a certain period. This is not normal. You need to have this checked. Start with your family doctor, who will run the standard blood work and rule out an organic cause, then he or she will refer you accordingly. Don't let this go. It must be attended to, and you must do it yourself. I'd appreciate it if you would post your follow-up action in the details section of your question. I want to know that you are doing something about this, and that you are getting positive results. I'd bet you anything that it is the Seasonal Affective Disorder. Now get going and see your doc!

Answer 5

You sound like you're experiencing depression or having panic attacks. Perhaps you are feeling a little anxious because having sex hurts? You didn't specify how exactly it hurts so I can't really elaborate there but since the doctor claims you're fine maybe it’s a mental thing. Was your last time painful or stressing? I would seek out another doctor for a second opinion. It could simply be that you are stressing and its causing you pain.

Answer 6

In this situation I would go to a doctor, no need in being shy, they have seen and heard it all...This may be easier said than done but still, I encourage you to take the step of seeing a doctor...You may also think about finding some other activities, in your community or church to get involved with...It can be a bit overwhelming at first but still, take the step! Sometimes, these small changes in things can make all the difference in the world...

Answer 7

Has your doctor asked you about anxiety problems. Maybe you feel it more when you are alone. Ask your doctor. Maybe get a roommate if it gets too bad but don't be a leech to this person. Just have them around for company.

Answer 8

it's OK, your just scared. A good 1st step probably would be to call a really good friend and ask if they want to go out and so something. Keep going out to movies or someplace just to have fun, not like a date or anything, but when your ready just rent a movie and invite him/her to come over to your place. So, you won't feel so lonely and you can slowly ease into it.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are depressed. Talk to a doctor about your feelings. Also there is an online site www.depressionhurts.com and it can walk you through things and see if it is depression that you are feeling.

Answer 10

You sound like you just need a friend and someone to talk to. It can be very hard I know. Yous hould try a counselor or something, they help sort things out like that. Try to keep yourself busy and think positive.