wat would you do? if your son said this....?

Question

if your son walked up to you and said that he was gay?
just wanna know.

ok b4 anymore ppl post this, dont, posting good luck to me is pointless, i was wondering wat YOU would do, not me,
so stop saying goodlucl to me and giving advice.

just tell the truth, or post somin, funny, the first ones made me giggle a bit.

Answer 1

''Well.. it's okay son, I accept you just the way you are. I love you as my son no matter what kind of sexuality you are.... it's not a big deal.. the sun is still shine, the sky is still blue, the birds are still singing no matter what you are..... I am happy for you as long as you are happy with your sexuality, son.
I'm glad you told me this, and I truly appreciate your honesty to me as your father. I respect you for this. You have your own freedom son to be whatever you wanna be. And I will support you emotionally and mentally for you being gay. I won't forsake you, my son.... I love you still and will always be.
Don't be afraid son, nothing's perfect in this world... I love you from my heart and I don't want you to feel alienate from your own family just because you are gay.... Being gay is really not the end of the world, my son.... so I do accept you just the way you are with all my heart''.
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Answer 2

I would treat my child no differently, gay or straight or bisexual. Why would anyone? Is our society still so pointlessly shallow? Have we learned nothing in the last 100 years? Is it still ONLY the elite families that have any real handle on the issues that matter? Issues such as love and respect and mutual caring, charity, compassion and hope -- while the rest of us go rooting around like pigs in slop looking for the pebbles of sh*t and hatred and prejudice and bigotry that conventional wisdom consider to be pearls?

I have raised two boys and helped one other through his later teens. The two I raised were both straight. Did I treat them differently than I would have if they had been gay (as I am)? NO. Do our straight friends treat their gay children differently than their straight ones? NO -- and I truly feel intense pity for anyone who would treat their child differently for any such reason. I also feel deep shame for the human race, which apparently continues to refuse to evolve and may well dead-end and die because of it. We learn nothing, not just about human sexuality - but about nearly everything that matters in any way.

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Reynolds
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Answer 3

I'd ask if he's sure, then personally, I'd tell him it's ok... because no child should ever feel unloved because of something so trivial as what they do in the bedroom... my mother always said that her children come before her beliefs, and has always acted accordingly.

Answer 4

I believe I would be somewhat shocked, naturally. However I do think I would also be comforted that my child felt close enough to share something like that with me. Believe it or not, some parents know before they are told about it. I would certainly never turn my back and ostracize my son. I would want to keep the lines of communication open, work out whatever feelings need to be worked out and accept my child for who he was. Period. I don't believe that homosexuality is a choice or a sexual deviation...nor do I believe it is a disorder, so why punish someone for something that is beyond their control and ask them to deny who they are?
Good luck ! :)

Answer 5

The hateful answers here scare me more than all the bashers combined. What sort of sick ***-bags would disown or physically abuse a child for being honest???

Children are a precious gift and a nearly overwhelming responsibility....it scares me that some of you may actually have kids.

Answer 6

Try and be very calm. Since he has made the effort to talk to you first, I would ask him how he knows he is gay. Then he might open up and perhaps he only has thought about guys and you can discuss what he means. But hug him and tell him you love him.

Answer 7

I think it would depend on his personality, his mannerism, etc. If i could tell he was uncomfortable with it, I would do anything I could to make him comfortable, If he was happy with it, I would encourage him. He'd be my son, and I would love him forever. My love is unconditional, and I would stand by his decision. It's his life, and ultimately I can't change him, and I wouldn't want to.

Answer 8

I would hug him and tell him I love him and that I'll always be there for him and he can talk to me about anything. Parents are supposed to love and support their children. Any "parent" that would turn their back on their kid because he/she was gay is sh*t.

Answer 9

I would tell him that it was nice for him to tell me and that I would love him anyways. A child is a miracle and only god knows what the future brings for one another. I would love my child even if he didn't have any legs, arms. I would love him no matter what.

Answer 10

I have a friend who just had something like this happen to her and she said "I don't care if you marry a man or woman but I better get a grandchild out of it", then she said I love you and gave him a hug.
She is my hero.