That you are no longer in love with him???and am leaving to go live with my parents again and finish college.That you are sick of being treated coldly and ignored.That it over
2006-12-07 08:44:54 · 32 answers · asked by Jane D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only had sex 8 times been married a little over a year i do not understand because i keep myself in great shape and take good care of myselfI am so fed up with him!
2006-12-07 08:55:20 · update #1
The same way you just told us just a little nicer. Good luck!
2006-12-07 08:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two words: Marriage counselor.
There must have been some reason you married this man. Whether you saw things in him that weren't there, or it's just a matter of growing apart, you owe it to yourself and to him to try to understand what's gone wrong. If for no other reason than if you don't try to figure it out, you may make the same mistakes again.
If nothing else, the divorce will be easier if you try to resolve whatever problems you're having, or at least find the least painful way to get closure on them.
Sounds like a very sad situation. Best wishes to you for a good resolution.
2006-12-07 08:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it first real long, because you will get lonely again. Is your marriage worth fixing? Is he adding to you are taking away from you? Have you accomplish anything together? Will you lose something if you leave? Are you acting out of anger? Sometime people have hard lives and bad teaching maybe his mother was not there are something happen along the way to him and he doesn't know how to treat you. I think you should find a church first and talk to a pastor. Are start going to church together maybe that will help. Maybe you are trying to make him fill a void in your life that can not be fill by him. Ask your self is it you. Think about some good times you shared. Ask Jesus to help you to love your husband again.
2006-12-07 08:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be cold, but you are handling this cruelly. As a bare minimum, you should have told him 6 months ago, "If you don't start treating me warmly and paying more attention to me within 6 months, I am going to leave you." You should have then provided monthly reminders. By the way you phrased your question, though, it is clear that you did not show him this simple human courtesy. You seem to be of the "two wrongs make a right" school of thought.
2006-12-07 08:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get everything ready. Have disposable cash, a divorce attorney, and your new residence made up. It sounds like this relationship is already over, so quicker is better. You tell your soon to be ex-hubby once you are ready.
2. When you tell him, do so in a public place with friends nearby. This is for your safety. Do so quickly, but discreetly. "I'm no longer in love with you, I'm moving out, and I'm filing for divorce." will be fine.
2006-12-07 08:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by Big Super 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your bags wait for him at the door and say it just like you have practiced it. Don't give him time to answer or change your mind. Just go. If he wants to change he will come for you, If not, You made the right choice.
2006-12-07 08:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by rose_calhoun23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you now the answer. Let him know how you feel and why. Don't say mean or hateful things. Just your mind is made up and that this is what will make you happy right now.
2006-12-07 08:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know what to tell him. I'd phrase it a little more politely, but it doesn't sound like either of you have any more feelings for eachother, so you don't have to worry about breaking his heart. Just tell him.
2006-12-07 08:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think yall should go see a therapist and talk it over, see whats really da problem.i think u are still in love with him, jus dont deserve how hes treating. I really think u should talk it over, express your feelings, n if hes not willing to change his way. Than girl.......u need someone who will treat u right.
good luck
2006-12-07 08:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS YOUR HUSBAND, SURELY THIS WON'T BE A SHOCK TO HIM. IF IT IS, YOU HAVEN'T BEEN HONEST ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS AND TALKING OUT OF BOTH SIDES OF YOUR MOUTH. MAYBE HE IS TIRED TOO. WHAT IF HE FEELS DISCONNECTED FROM YOU AND DIDN'T WANT TO HURT YOU. DON'T HAVE A KNEE JERK REACTION- TALK TO HIM ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL. YOU SOUND VERY YOUNG AND SPOILED. YOU CAN GO TO COLLEGE AND MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK AS WELL, UNLESS OF COURSE THERE IS MORE TO IT THAN THAT. SECOND THOUGHTS MAYBE??
2006-12-07 08:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by Maddy's Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋