When I was nine years old, my mother had my baby sister, who I raised, pretty much by myself, because my mother needed to work. My brothers didn't really help at all, they changed her diaper once in a while. But it was pretty much me raising her, teaching her to use the potty, giving her baths, feeding her, and now she's six and in 1st grade. I'm 15 and I want my own baby. I told my best friend this, and she said that I'm insane and stupid and she'd kill me if I had one. Is it really that insane for me to want one?
2006-12-07 08:03:43 · 42 answers · asked by littlemoochild 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just wait a little longer-I've been there.
2006-12-07 08:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are still a child yourself. I think you are missing the feeling you had when you were needed by your little sister because your mother was not around to give you the attention you should have had at 9 years old. DO NOT HAVE A BABY YET!! Get your education, travel the world, and wait until you have been married for 5 years to have a child. Mature parents make the best parents. You won't go through life wondering what you have missed. There are too many children in this world that were born for the wrong reasons. You are still a child yourself. Enjoy life and then become a parent.
2006-12-07 08:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by pe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you have a maternal instinct...not everyone does so it's a real gift. Just don't be so eagar to put it in practice on a such a permanent basis. I too helped my mom out a lot with my younger sisters and did a LOT of babysitting. My first summer job (at age 15) was nannying for a 7, 5 and 2 year old -- 10 hours a day, 5 days a week at the tune of $2 /hr (that includes house cleaning duties)! That was the first time I got headache and swore off ever being a mother.
I was 29 and married for 5 years before I had my son and no amount of caregiving could fully prepare me for his arrival. I love him so much and thank god I have the support of my husband and family because I could not do this alone (and I'm a tough chick!) My hats off to young mothers who do it on their own, but not all of them are fortunate as you to consciously make this decision. There's plenty of time to have babies when you're older -- you're only young once so don't be in such a hurry to grow up.
2006-12-07 08:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a question for you(im not bieng mean in any way)
who bought the diapers?who bought her food?clothes?blankets?bottles?
So ok at 15-16 you''ll have a baby, with no education and a baby in your hands. Either your parents will reject you or take away the baby, or if they are awfully nice they will raise it with you.
you'll go to a special school for pregnant girls, where you get taught how to take care of it. You wont be able to get married even to get financial support until you're 18.
Next the father..Do you know if he has std's?that gives you a chance that you and your baby might die. Do you want all this?
There is nothing wrong with WANTING a baby, but will you be able to get through with this?
I am not exaggerating, or mocking you.
2006-12-07 14:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by Raya d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising a child is a lot of responsibilty. It literally means sacrificing your plans for your baby. That means, no movie night with the friends because you have to stay home to watch the baby. That means its harder to find a guy who is willing to date or marry a girl "with baggage." Plus, on top of it all there's that whole morning sickness and labor pains you have to go through, and they can't always give an epidural. You have so much of your life ahead of you. Wait a while until you can afford one and already have a good life going. Make sure you can financially afford to spoil your child rotten. Obviously you want a child to love and nurture and take care of. Why don't you wait until you can afford to give your child the world and can make sure you can spend time with him or her. No one wants a mom who is never there for them. Make sure you finish your education, get a good job, and can be there. Even better would be to wait until marriage. It's important for a child to have a father in the home. Statistically, children with father's in the home are less likely to end up in prison, more likely to finish high school, and more likely to get better jobs. Look at all the facts before you decide to sign your life over to raise another person.
2006-12-07 08:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by childofgod2911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.. Listen to your friend.. Your mother was an idiot to give the raising of a child to such a young girl. It is wonderful you took it on and did a wonderful job.
Be a girl for a while, Live, Love, Experience life... Find out the mysteries that ebb at your heart before you become a mother... then when you find someone you love, and it is the right time, you will b e ready for the child and will be able to give it a wonderful quality of life because of the education you where able to get, that helped you with the great job you landed, that supplies all the wonderful money that helps your baby eat, prosper and grow.
If I where about, Id Kick your Mother in the a**. Be better than her. Grow and prosper.
2006-12-07 08:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay. I don't really think it's insane for you to want a baby but, think about it in the long run. Your only 15. What can you really provide for a baby? You have to finish school and get an education to support it and your self. I think you need to be worrying about going to Proms, Dances.. getting your drivers license. You are way to young to even think about it. I had to grow up a little to soon as well, with my mom working all the time.. I took care of the house and my brother and sister but, I never dreamed of having one at that age. Heck, I'm only 22 and sometimes, I feel that's still to young but, I am married, have a stable job and I know I can provide for my baby now. Just think about that. Please. :) I hope this helps you out. Have a merry christmas! --Jenn
2006-12-07 08:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by tristan's mommie 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age I wanted a baby to. I waited til I was married though and it was the smartest thing I have ever done. I know I don't know you but I know you will regret it. It was hard for me having a baby with a husband to help. They are verry expensive to. You need to have a good paying steady job with benifets and have a house to raise your child in. I know you practically raised your sister but a child of your own will be way harder. How will you finish school when you can't study. A baby reqires a lot of attention 24/7.
2006-12-07 13:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not insane for you to want one - the desire is understandable, especially considering your circumstances. But there's a difference between wanting something and actually being able to deal with getting the thing you wanted.
Let me ask you this - if your 6 year old little sister told you she wants to have a baby, what would you tell her? Would your answer be any different when she turns 15?
2006-12-07 08:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Honesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...it's not insane for you to want a baby. But please take some advice....wait. Just wait. I gave up a college scholarship to get married and have a baby when I was 17. While I wouldn't trade my girl for anything in this world, I think every day about how much easier it would be if i had gone on to college and gotten a degree and established a career before coming a mom. We do ok but there are so many more things i would like to be able to do for her and give to her but i have an average job and no college education so i can't. Please just think about it. :)
2006-12-07 08:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me see. well, mainly. i know you have being raising you sister and all. BUT! you had someone you can fall on incase you are sick or something
you have to also consider your household income. will if be affeced. Can you afford to raise another baby
What about school!?.. do you not want to graduate? unless you think you can juggle so many things all at the same time.
How are you going to get pregnant?. with some loser boy that just donates sperm?
what will your future Husband think if you say that you had a baby..
well, in my opinion these are JUST A FEW of a zillion things you have to consider.
but overall.. i think you just have to wait a little. Get a diploma. Study hard. Make sure you have a good foundation to raise your baby. you dont want he/she to not leed a perfect life right.
just be patient.. Time will come for you to have a baby..
2006-12-07 08:12:04 · answer #11 · answered by orlyandsa 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋