My last Period was Sept 1st , I had unprotected sex with my Current BF several times during the month and on the 16 Sept I had unprotected sex with my ex-bf, who may have a low sperm count.
according to one website I may have conceived on the 16th , so is my ex the father of my child ?
After 1yr of unprotected sex with my current BF , we have never conceived , after one night with my ex I'm now Pregnant and confused.
2006-12-07 07:58:40 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Firstly, you are human. Don't be so hard on yourself. We all make mistakes but in the midst of your bad judgement, a miracle has happened.I was in this type of prediciment 8 years ago. (I'm 30 now) I was afraid of the situation (long story) and had an abortion, which my bf pressured me into. I have regretted it EVER since and it was thee hardest thing I've ever done. I'll never forgive myself. Anyone who says having an AB is the easy way out has not lived through it. Having a child has got to be MUCH easier. To make matters worse, me & my beloved husband have been trying to conceive for 3 years. I just found out I have endometriosis and may NEVER bear a child of my own. I was young and naive and believed I would conceive again no problem, when the time was right.
So, you know what, just have faith and it will all work out. You will be a great mother and what will be, will be. Turn to your family and friends for support.
Let us know what happens. Good luck xo
2006-12-07 08:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by hugsandsmilesplease 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is kinda tough only because you may have had sex on the 14th w/ ur b/f and 16th with your ex, and sperm can still live in that time frame. Don't stress over it, what's done is done. Is there any way you can have an u/s to measure the baby they can give you a real good accurate due date in early pregnancy. hopefully the intercourse dates were not so close you can better narrow it down. otherwise congrads and no matter what a child is a gift from god
2006-12-07 08:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by BlkBarbiedoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL SOUNDS LIKE YOUR ODDS R AGAINST U. DID U SLEEP W/ YOUR CURRENT BF THE NIGHT BEFORE, SAME NIGHT, OR NIGHT AFTER YOUR EX? THEN YOU MAY STILL HAVE A CHANCE IT COULD BE HIS. I GUESS YOU WILL NEED A BLOOD TEST TO REALLY NO FOR SURE.
Y ARE U SLEEPING W/YOUR EX ANYWAY AND UNPROTECTED AT THAT? YOU SHOULDN'T BE HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX W/ANY ONE ESPECIALLY IF YOU AREN'T COMMITTED TO THAT PERSON AND CLEARLY U ARE NOT COMMITTED TO EITHER GUY.
I HOPE U AT LEAST TELL THEM BOTH THE TRUTH AND HAVE A TEST DONE SO U KNOW 4 SURE AND THERE IS NO DOUBT 4 ANYONE.
2006-12-07 08:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by ROSIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be either ones baby. Not everyone ovulates at the same time each month. Be honest to each one and have a paternity test done. Its only fair to them to let them know there is a chance your bf may not be the father and your ex may be the father.
2006-12-07 08:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard but for the baby calm down. websites are not doctors and it was more and likely your bf but you need to get an ultrasound done to get the date you may have conceived. and you need to be honest for later reasons. You don't want to be one the Maury show saying the I wish i woulda , coulda , please forgives . Make your self just look bad and pathetic. Be honest know so know can tell him and you have a clean concussions. Good luck and Congrates with the baby.
2006-12-07 08:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid you won't know for sure until the baby is born and a paternity test is taken. Conception dates aren't an exact science but if you were to make a guess I'd say it was you're ex bf's.
2006-12-07 08:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good job. That sex made you feel good about yourself just like you planned.
Low sperm count doesnt mean intertility, it means its harder to get pregnant. It could be either man.
You'll either have to do a DNA test inutero, or wait until the baby is born. In most cases you wait until the baby is here to test.
2006-12-07 08:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it could be either man... You will only be able to find out after the baby is born though DNA testing, unless they are totally 100% opposite (hair, skin, other obvious features).
In any case tell both men the truth ahead of time so they don't get confused when the baby is born.
Good luck
2006-12-07 08:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it could be either one. i mean, who really knows. the only thing you can do is tell your current bf what you did, and there may be a chance that your ex bf is the father. then you'll just have to get a paternity test done.
2006-12-07 08:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by Katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put my vote on the ex. My cousin was with one guy for a long time and never got pregnant, she cheated on him once and got pregnant right away. Looks like your BF might not be that fertile.
2006-12-07 08:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by redzodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋