I've been in a relatiionship for the past 5 1/2 years, we have a four year old and I just got this message from "my friend" who won't tell me who they are because they don't want to get involved in the drama.
This "friend" says they saw my man somewhere getting close to another girl. So I'm wondering should I believe this person? I don't even know who it is. For all I know it could be someone f*&*^ with me. I did send a message back to this anonomous person and told them to tell me who there were if they were really my friend.
I know there are a lot of these questions out there, but we've been in a relationship for a long time.. we have a kid.... although we're not in the most stable relationship, and it's not that I can't leave him, it's more like he won't go away! What would you do?
2006-12-07 07:43:03 · 21 answers · asked by Destinee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh dear,,, what a dillemma.
There is a saying " If your hear the river flow, is because it carries stones"... meaning that if you hear something as delicate as this, you should not ignore it.
I say, do a little investigative work before confronting him.
Look closely for cellphone calls at odd hours and repeated numbers.
Look for odd credit card charges.
Has his behavior changed? Is he paying more attention to his appearance i.e. working out, wearing cologned, buying new clothes...
Is he coming late from work repeatedly?
Does he have unexplainable absenses from home?
Good luck
2006-12-07 07:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I get a sense that you are (at lease temporarily) in a no win situation. You don't have proof and you don't even know the source. But, I also sense a new life and a major change coming to you! Make balanced and fair decisions and start keeping you eye on him, there could be someone else but it may only be silly flirting (was he drunk?). I think you do need more facts and most definitely be starting a new phase. Things are not final yet, use your opportunities and have more communication with your partner. (Is there s-xu-al probs between the two of you?) This can be a reason someone gets attracted to another. If you find he has, decide where it is YOU want to be and work it out or move on.
2006-12-07 07:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny Palmist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This so called friend already got involved in the drama when the decided to send you that message. You have to look at the mesage as face value. Do you believe what is being said? Is there any possibility that it could be true? If your answers are yes, then you need to discuss this with your partned. Show him the message and ask your questions. Then you can decide if you believe what he is saying or not. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-07 07:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Cali Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shoud tell your bf and see what he says, and watch how he reacts. Or you can just follow your husband one day and see where he goes. Sorry I can't be any more helpful, this is a strange situation. I hope that you do find out who is texng you. Wait, does he send the messages with a blocked # because if he doesn't you could probably look him up on the interent by the number
2006-12-07 07:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust a message. I would confront your man and ask him. If you are still in doubt, follow him around in a car he does not recognize or hire an investigator to find evidence that he in fact is with someone else. It's better to find out on your own than to have weird messages telling you what you should believe.
2006-12-07 07:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him what you were told and watch for his reaction. Maybe this friend just wants to start trouble with you two so they can move in on you. You are his partner so you owe it to him to talk to him about what you have been told. Maybe this person just interpreted what was going on the wrong way.
2006-12-07 07:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one.. Whoever gave you this heads up MAY be fooling with you, so don't go accusing your boyfriend just yet.
If things are just fine between you two, you may just want to ignore it.
However, if you have any suspicions, or he's been out and not able to account for his time, it may be something you want to look into. I mean, who wants to be with a dishonest cheater?
2006-12-07 07:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would someone screw with you about something like this. They wanted you to know and not be involved and this was their way of doing it. I would believe it and say nothing to my man about it, i would start to watch him and yep, i hate to say it but snoop through his phone, wallet, car, and find out. Saying nothing to him gives him no indication that you know something is wrong, and this way he keeps acting normal and WILL trip himself up and then he busts himself. Good luck with this.
2006-12-07 07:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to find out for sure what is going on.. and if he is cheating you need to move on so that you don't suffer anymore. Once a cheater always a cheater but you have to find out if he is cheating first
Good luck to you
2006-12-07 07:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out if that person was telling me the truth first then deal with the rest later.
2006-12-07 07:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋