My husband and I moved 1000 miles away from ALL of our friends. He has kept in close contact with most of his friends, but there were a few that he cut contact with (and a few of my friends that we cut contact with) because we now have children and they aren't "Child friendly" people. One of these "friends" of my husband's called our house a year ago drunk in the middle of the night screaming at him because of something he said to someone FIVE YEARS AGO and he told her never to call back again. He got a seething email from her yesterday saying how ever since he got with me he hasn't had time for his friends anymore. He deleted it- didn't reward it with a response- but I am PISSED that she's blaming ME for everything.. What's a tactful way of dealing with her?? Do I ignore it, or do I email her one back?
2006-12-07 07:33:41 · 24 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shes not worth a response, ignore her...
2006-12-07 07:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you're really not the one whom has to deal with it. Hubby is. There are obviously some kind of feelings from her, regardless if they are deep or shallow, but, I think being far away from her is probably the best thing. She might also feel like her and your husband were friends and then he just ended the friendship . . . kind of like a break up but of friends, not a couple. I think she has taken it personal and feels you moved to get away from her(even though it was to get away from several) and she is only seeing it from her standpoint and not that of everyone elses as well. I would leave it be for now. If she starts up again, maybe hubby should tell her he does not appreciate the accusations(toward you) and doesn't want to hear it anymore.
2006-12-07 07:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it. Take the high road...
If you email her back she will have the satisfaction of knowing she got under your skin and caused a possible rift between you and your hubby. (whether it did or not) However, if you say nothing at all she will be so pissed at the fact that it didn't light your fire .... she will do one of 2 things she will either leave you alone or bombard him with more emails... which should be deleted promptly DO NOT even read them, it will only cause your blood to boil again.
You have the upper hand right now dont waste it
2006-12-07 07:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not understanding how long you 2 have been at the same time remains no reason to be insulted by using your husband,Marriage counselor is super in case you surely need to keep the relationship if not then offering there isn`t any violence in contact i might think of you opt for possibly a injury to verify whether he ought to cope on his very own for a pair of weeks,take a holiday or stay with some acquaintances if on returning that doesn`t artwork then I concern the only different process action may well be to pass your separate procedures amicable.good success.
2016-10-17 23:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do to someone is ignore them. It makes them feel like they are not worth talking to. In this case, she isnt, so just ignore her. Your husband did the right thing by deleting it. What do you care what a drunk thinks about you.
2006-12-07 07:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by struth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it. She is not worth your time nor your energy. It sounds like you have a wonderful husband, and family. Live for them, not some person who is just mad because they have not grown up and gotten into the real world of adult hood yet! Let it go, and be happy with what you have!
Good Luck!
2006-12-07 07:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately tell her off when you see her again. emails are only more frustrating! she is a hater and needs a life. if she made the trouble to write such an email than ur husband and her must have had something more than just a friendship. she is defiantely a hater and you need to more about why?????
2006-12-07 07:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she has a crush on your husband. She is jealous of what you guys have. Ignore her, then she will stop because if you answer back then she knows that she has annoyed you and then she wont ever stop. Just ignore her so that she will think she is not getting you guys's soft spot. Try this first. good luck.
2006-12-07 07:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email her back and tell her to shut the f up. Then ignore her if she tries it again. She's not worth getting upset for.
2006-12-07 07:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Aerosmithfan#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her. Whar is there to worry about? Your husband doesn't blame you or hold it against you does he? Then who cares what she thinks. Sounds like he cut ties with the right person.
2006-12-07 07:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, ignore it. Don't write anything back. You've cut contact - now become a black hole - everything in, nothing out. Eventually, she'll get the message.
2006-12-07 08:17:01 · answer #11 · answered by Big Super 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋