for married couples - how was it, did it affect your marrige, was it with someone you knew or a stranger
the wife and i talk about it all the time but have not had the chance. she is not as excited about it as i am, more because of the preganancy belly she has being embarrasing to her(self confident about it)
2006-12-07 07:28:43 · 11 answers · asked by Acee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes we talked about MMF and am ok with that but she is not interested, supprisinly.
2006-12-07 07:45:19 · update #1
did you ever watch the Bunny Ranch HBO documentary - they show some couples there experimenting with 3-ways - that would be the only way i would do a 3-way for the first time - go to a "professional girl", who could gently and kindly guide your wife thru the process - i don't think if i was married that i would want to do it - as a single person maybe, just for fun, but once married i would want to be exclusive with my husband. plus i have heard that many marriages have suffered because of 3-ways.
2006-12-07 07:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by born_free_again 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We did a 3 way a year ago and it didn't affect us in anyway. I got to enjoy he being pleasured by another girl, who was a mutual friend of ours, and he got to enjoy doing whatever he wanted with this girl.
Recently we've done a swap thing with a couple we have as really good friends. The first 2 times was back in the summer BEFORE I got pregnant I didn't really get the most out of it if you know what I mean because it was something new to me and I wasn't sure how my female friend felt. The last time a few weeks ago I really enjoyed it with the guy even with my pregnant belly. I've realized it's something that won't last forever so I'm enjoying it while I can, so is my husband. I enjoy the sex with the other guy very much...much more than with my husband, but that's a secret I can never tell.
Perhaps your wife isn't as interested as you are because the 3rd person will be a girl, on top of that some women don't feel that great about their pregnant bellies when it comes to being intimate.
I guess it depends on how strong the relationship is before you do anything... It's best to be honest, open and talk things through. The minute either one of you feels uncomfortable is the moment it should stop, otherwise there will be regrets somewhere down the line. The only thing about involving a stranger is that you don't know their sexual history, medical history, etc. If it is with someone you DON'T know I would recommend going out a couple of times as friends..to dinner or something to lighten the mood and get an idea of what the other person(s) is like. Oh and one thing I discovered was that I really enjoy watching 2 girls together, but I get nothing out of being one of those girls. A lot of women are like this...your wife may not know until she's involved. Good luck.
2006-12-07 08:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by october g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the time, I was a little scared and nervous. But, you will feel that way before you do anything for the first time. I will tell you that it was erotic. You feel like you're doing something wrong, so it makes it that much more exciting. It didn't affect our marriage in a bad way at all. I think it actually brought us closer together. And, it was someone that we knew. I don't think I could do that with a stranger. I would rather it be someone that I trusted. I hope this helps!
*Oh, make sure that your wife is COMPLETELY comfortable with herself and the idea prior to going through with it. If you are not mentally prepared, it could do some serious damage to your self esteem and to your relationship.
2006-12-07 07:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was recently invited to participate in a 3 some with my best friend and his wife. I did, and at the time it was amazing. But now they are getting a divorce, and my relationship with my best friend is very strained to say the least. If you do decide to do this, i'd suggest hiring an escort or picking up someone you don't know.
2006-12-07 08:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by jonnyexcel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have never had the experience ... but I'm presuming that the threesome you are looking for is a m / f / f.
How do you or your wife feel about a m / m / f encounter any discussions on that?
Are you open to either or is it purely your fantasy and she is muddling it over to keep you happy.
Everyone should be totally on board with the decision and not just doing it to escape further discussions.
2006-12-07 07:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know people who have done this and to be honest....2/3's of the stories I've heard are not good. Yeah, the sex is an adventure but sometimes one person gets jealous and as they say, "people are people."
My advice is look at your relationship and if it's strong enough and you two still want to do it, then do it. If you're not sure about the strength of your relationship....don't do it!
2006-12-07 07:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tried it once actually and enjoyed it. It was a difference experience that worked for us at the time. I would not do it now, but I am at a different place in my life.
2006-12-07 07:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by texasgirl5454312 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have done it but it was not worth it,although it was never said the thought that i let someone i love be with another woman was too much for me and i ended up resenting him for it, we did work it out eventually but the whole process was a disaster.
2006-12-07 07:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by northeastcoast_butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not do it fantasy is much better than reality as far as that goes. i was there. we did it and it ended up causing mixed feelings later on. we thought it would be fun and exciting. at the time it was....but, it was NOT worth it. don't make the same mistake that i made.
2006-12-07 07:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
be-careful what you get into
a marriage is one man and one woman
2006-12-07 10:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by tim k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋