My new baby is 2 weeks old. My next appointment with my OB/GYN is in 4 more weeks. At this appt, she wants to talk about birth control. So far I cannot decide on a method. I don't want to use any hormones, so no pills, patches or shots. My husband and I both dislike barrier methods, so no condoms or diaphragms. I cannot stand gels or douches, no spermicide or suchlike... The intrauterine device is OUT.
We actually want to have more children, LOTS more, we don't mind how soon. I'm young, healthy and fertile. I've already bounced back from pregnancy and a natural delivery. I'm breastfeeding my baby.
HOW do I politely tell my OB that I am not really able to decide on a method of birth control? Or, should I say I'm going to try something like "the rythm method" or "the Billings method" etc. etc., should I just lie and say we're using condoms? Then in two months "Oops, the contraception failed?"
I mean, I want another baby... Shouldn't have to justify it to the doc?
2006-12-07 07:24:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Husband is on the same page as me. Doesn't want to use birth control methods, wants to have another as soon as is natural.
2006-12-07 07:28:28 · update #1
Getting pregnant while breastfeeding your baby is not a good idea. Attempting to feed THREE people will be extremely draining-it will weaken your immune system and may cause problems with a fetus. There are condoms that feel like you aren't using anything at all (which is what I use, with spermicide)-if you must get pregnant soon, PLEASE wait until you are six months postpartum-when your baby starts solids, he/she will need less breastmilk, making it a little safer.
When you go to your ob/gyn, just explain that you understand the risks, but it is the choice that you and your partner have made. They will try and talk you out of it, just hold your ground. Blessings and congratulations on your new addition to the family!
Oh, and one more thing-breastfeeding, while it DOES work for some, isn't the best birth control. I breastfed full time and restarted my menses about 6 weeks postpartum-I'm not sure if I was ovulating, but I *think* I was. Just be cautious. =)
2006-12-07 08:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just tell the truth, you and your husband don't want to use any. If your breast feeding (from what I was told by my OB) it's almost like a birth control. Your body will know when it's ready to have another baby so I would let the doc tell you anything diff. Women have gone for hundreds of years with out birth control! :) Good luck and congrats on the baby!
2006-12-07 07:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No yoiu do not have to justify your actions with anyone you are adult and so is your husband. If you are breast feeding full time though that is a natural form of birth control that could fail like others. But in the end you make the decision not a Dr. They cant make you take any thing to prevent a pregnancy.
2006-12-07 07:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by quamie21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not up to your doctor whether or not you take birth control. This is just what he would like to discuss with you since most women go back on there birth control methods, you do not have to do it. Just tell him that you are not thinking in the direction of birthcontrol and you are going to leave it in God's hands (sorry to bust out with religous behavior) It would not be rude at all to let him know that you are not even considering it at this time. It is your body and the choice of you and your husband on what birth control you use.
2006-12-07 07:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 10:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by brickman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just flat out tell him/her that you prefer not to use any at the moment. Or lie and tell her like you said....that you are using condoms or something.
Believe me, OBGYNs have heard and seen everything. Your doc isn't going to look down on your or anything like that for your choices. Hell, look at the Catholic faith....they don't really do birth control (the faith itself doesn't encourage it or something like that)...so no worries!!!
This is not something to stress over or look too deeply into. Your OB probably meant talk about what YOU want to do...and not what you ARE going to do!
Congrats on your new baby!!
2006-12-07 07:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by retrowfmk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the docs tried to push birth control on me, I just refused it. It isn't the end of the world, and you don't have to justify anything to your doctor. You do not have to accept any prescriptions, and remember that you are allowed to make this decision without the aid of doctor.
Don't lie, and don't hide the truth.
2006-12-07 07:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you will be using the rhythm method. If you feel up to it, tell him/her that you are okay with having another baby right away. But please take care of your nutrition. Our bodies lose a lot to the babies and you need to be sure that are you getting enough of everything, esp. if you are breastfeeding.
2006-12-07 07:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by mld122979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take my advice- if you are a great parent, and healthy enough- and your spouse believes he wants more, too- then whynt hve more? Why should a doctor decide what your family wants? Don't lt them boss you around.
2006-12-07 07:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by answermaker96 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you don't want any. It's your business, not hers....do what you want, as long as you know the risks involved....Hey, if you can afford them and want them, great....
2006-12-07 07:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by favrd1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋