Is it wrong to join groups and clubs just to meet girls?

Question

I used to work crappy job after another just to meet the girls my age. I go to school at night and everyone there is too old for me. Where do 18-20 y.o. girls congregate? I want to join some volunteer organizations, to actually help people and make a difference, and score some good boy points. When I do join a club or organization, how long do I stay before I can exit quietly?

Answer 1

Not if you're joining a group you actually have an interest in yourself. Hey,we're out there doing the same thing to meet you guys! The goal is to find common interests. Volunteering is great because you can always bow out gracefully by just letting them know you're switching to another group. And you get "good boy" points for posing your question,going to night school and trying to make a difference. You'll find girls,just go where they will be looking for you,too.

Answer 2

Hi there... I think you just spoke about me for a second there... Only when I was about 18 though,I'll tell you what I know and what I think you might know...the thing is it's very strange that when ever we look for something we don't seem to find it, but if you're not interested in some things you find that somehow there's plenty of them around at your service. Most guys start developing a mature mindset at a young age due to how they were brought up, who their friends were and some kind of a good rolemodel. What I would suggest is for you to take the thought of LOOKING for a girlfriend totaly out of your mind but instead try to explore. Try to think about it this way, for example let's say you were an undercover journalist and you are writing a story on how's people's attitude in public places and mostly in night clubs. So to get the story right you wanna feel how people feel when their having a good time or whatever in the club, so this will involve going there alone so you can concentrate, start by buying a few drings and listening to the music that is playing, look at the Dj and notice how he does his job,get drinking until you feel 'Happy',this is the state that people like when they've had a few to drink, don't go over board though.Make sure to stand where there is alot of movements but still out of the way where people pass to go somewhere,it is important that you do not walk around alot, try to make a mark where you stand, this creates a subconsious mindset to females that you're a person who is 'Always there', As long as you are in that happy state you're fine, be sure not run to the dancefloor as soon as you hear your favourate song, dance where you are standing, dancefloor is when the lady grabs you for a dance for now. Now while there try looking at other people, try to think what they are thinking even when they've had alot to drink,everytime you go to the bar to get another drink, ask any person next to you if they are having a good night or enjoying themselves. All this was to take you off from looking at all the girls,girls can notice if you're only there to get laid.That is why you find guys who have girlfriends or are married get more attention, that's because most of them are not looking for girls anyway. Right then, so let's say you see a good looking girl and feel like talking,remember this, you're an undercover journalist, when you get there don't even say "Hi" journalist don't have time for this,start by asking a question straight away,"having a good time", "What made you come here anyway?" just ask questions that are out of the flirting mode,that way you build a friendship,instead of a target.One other thing is...don't ask her name right until the end of your conversation,that way it's most definate that she will remember you and your name. If you don't get to speak to a bird, don't worry....Do the same next week, stand at the same place aswell. I gaurantee you that by the third week atleast, you should have a couple of people used to you and girls who go regularly will aswell... So stay relaxed and just feel free Hope this helps if you do go out alone, which I hope will do. GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

No, not at all, especially if you're volunteering to help others....It's a win, win. As far as exiting quietly, who cares, you're never going to see them again.

Answer 4

Hell yeah man, I used to go to church just to meet girls. Its ok if you do it as long as the girls think your doing it for a cause. Don't let them know your doing this or that to meet women.

Answer 5

All is fair in love and war...

Answer 6

the moral of it is wrong
but, then again its not