I am 20 and just found out i'm pregnant. I'm sooo excited and want to go through with having the baby. my boyfriend is soo excited too (we've been together for almost 4 years), even though it was an accident. I love the fact that I'm pregnant and feel I'd be a good mommy (and he'd be a good daddy). However, my parents are really strict and old-fashioned. They are really close to me and I'm in college and everything. If I told them, THEY'D KILL ME and my boyfriend (they love him now!). I can't even describe how mad they would be and i'm way too embarassed to tell them... Financially, my family is EXTREMEMY wealthy and everything, so money is definitely not an issue for the baby. Should I have an abortion or should I go through with the pregnancy? Am I too young? help! what should i do?
2006-12-07 07:23:20 · 22 answers · asked by Roxbaby 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No No PLEEZZZEEE No abortion!!
No No No, you are NOT too young!
You and your beau are HAPPY (not sad, not angry, not resentful, not disinterested..) about this new baby...right???
Bottom line, it's you and he, and you are the parents and you are old enough, have dated long enough to know that your union both physical and emotional is good.
And I know that kids often fear their parents when it comes to an unplanned pregnancy. Believe it or not, they WILL get over it. They will be angry, disappointed, proudly defiant, and deny what has happened HAS happened, but they will WILL will get over it. You will have to be patient with them as they go their round of emotions. One might even try to press you to abort - HOLD YOUR GROUND. Do not allow anyone ANYONE to pressure you into denying a baby it's life.
Sooner or later, a concept will be melted into their minds, then their hearts - a GRANDBABY! That may turn them around post-haste!
So, both you and your beau need to bring together both sets of parents into one place and make your grand announcement. At least one of the four will be more supportive of you and help the other parents to accept this new change.
Babys are blessings - proof that God is not finished with us yet. Now, take care of things that need taking care of - informing the parents and getting that wedding date planned.
God's blessings to your new upcoming family!
2006-12-07 07:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, which i was a 20 year old mother myself, i would have the baby. I was married (going to be 5 years in February) is the only difference, but you said you have been with your boyfriend for some time and he is supportive, so thats a great plus! It is hard at times, my twin sons are now 2 1/2 and i am 23 but its also so rewarding, so wonderful. I don't believe there is any set age when all the sudden you are old enough to have children. It is a matter of maturity, can you provide for the childs needs, do you want this child, and it sounds like you do. You might regreat having an abortion. In the end its your choice. Your parents might find it hard at first, to be excited over their new little grandchild but hopefully if you and your boyfriend have a talk with them, and they see you really want this child and are prepared...hopefully they will support you through the pregnancy and after the baby is born. Good luck!!
2006-12-07 07:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what YOU want to do not what YOUR PARENTS want you to do. You are a grown adult who can make your own decisions. If your parents love you (and I'm sure they probably do) you being pregnant will not change anything. They may be a little disappointed but hey, it's your life not theirs. Just explain to them... look, it was an accident that I got pregnant but I love my boyfriend and we both love this baby and are going to keep it. I'm sorry if I have disappointed you but I've got to live my own life and do what makes me happy. And having this baby is it.
They may not like it but they will come around, I promise. No parent just loves their child some of the time and I know they'll love their grandbaby just as much. And they won't hate you or the boyfriend, after getting used to the idea they'll probably love him even more for stepping up and being a man. Everything will be okay. Just keep in mind, don't worry about what your parents think... just do what makes YOU happy. They will support you no matter what.
P.S. You're not the first, and you won't be the last. I wouldn't kill my child (i.e. abortion) just because my family might be a little disappointed in me.
2006-12-07 07:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a steady courting, you could have your own residence, a well process, you don't forget able for a youngster and so long as your companion does too I cant see the concern. I had my daughter as soon as I was once as soon as 20, just a few months prior than my twenty first. A child can placed a stress on any courting as they're stressful and absorb alot of time and want you for a long time but it surely undoubtedly has such a lot of rewards. As lengthy as you are your partner maintain talking and be honest with each different I believe you'll be able to be ready to be prime-first-rate. Not all couple separate after having kids and there may be not anything to claim yours will fail both. I shouldn't have any inspiration regarding the implant as certainly not had it, talk in your GP could normally be the exceptional endorse nonetheless i could count on each person is quality, pleasant element to do isn't think approximately it going down! I want you well fortune, hopefully you wont be in a position too prolonged on your package deal of pride xxx
2016-09-03 10:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by brickman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 20 now. Your an adult. Why should it matter if it's too young or not? If you can provide for the baby then that is what counts. Although I think you should get married before the baby is born. You get more benefits. I am 21 and pregnant and I could care less if some people think I am too young or not.
If you get an abortion that would be a stupid idea. Have the baby, tell your parents and be happy. Eventually they will get over it. Mine have.
2006-12-07 07:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that 20 is OK to have a baby I am 20 and due any day now and as long as you are financially able to support the baby and mentally ready CONGRATS and good luck as far as your parents go tell them they might be mad at first but soon they will get used to the idea of being grandparents and they will still love your boyfriend because he is willing to be there for you and the baby and NO you don't need to have an abortion you laid down and now this is your responsibility to take care of this child.
2006-12-07 07:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was 20 when I got pregnant with my daughter (21 when she was born) but I was also married. If you and your boyfriend are both adults, have been together for 4 years, and love each other you could get married before the baby is born. Would that make a difference to your family? Good luck G-d bless and all the best.
2006-12-07 07:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that, you would be surprized with your family though. My family was really stricked and old fashion when I got pregnant with my first child at age 18 with a kid I grew up with (now my husband) I waited till i was 5 months to tell them, when I finally did I showed them an ultra sound and they were are thrilled (scared for me and my husband financially) but they were happy they cannot change it. Now my dad and my aunt (who i was scared the most to tell) now spoil my child unconditionally and are thrilled to death my son is due any day now. Good luck, if you and your boyfriend are happy and are willing to plan how to work your life out, keep your baby im sure you will both be wonderful parents.
2006-12-07 07:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by Ash1227 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's way too late to be asking that question! Have this baby and enjoy sharing your lives with the little one.
Trust me, your parents will not kill you. You may be amazed how happy they will be for you. Of course, you and your boyfriend could make their joy more complete if you do the right thing and get married and make plans for being good parents to the child. You are not too young, but you may have to make some changes in your lifestyle. Just think of it as one of life's great adventures.
Good luck!
2006-12-07 07:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Suzianne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no its not too young. I would not have an abortion because even if this is an accident, you both are happy about the news. If your parents arent happy about it, they will be once your baby comes.
You should tell them as soon as possible to get it out in the open.
I know youd like to count on them for money, but you shouldnt.
Have a plan when you go to them to tell them the news. Not, ''oh you can help us, you have money''.
You are not too young though.
2006-12-07 07:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by nikogal2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋