It's complicated: Christina (aged 27, the girl I'm in love with, who is also married to my boss) is working in the same office as I am. We had a hidden but very romantic relationship, we are the best lovers ever and the best friends also. I have to mention she doesn't love her husband 'cos he's drinking a lot and he often becomes violent. He doesn't love her as he likes to "meet" other women!! And we have the proof of that :( But you don't know yet the worst part of the story: my love has got a 3-years-old daughter who really loves her daddy (I mean my boss) ... :( My love Christina often tells me that if there wasn't her little daugher she would immediately divorced but we unfortunately met too late :( I know I'm not doing the right thing but... how can I tell my heart not to love the most beautiful blue eyes in the whole wide world ? :(( I love Chris, I really LOVE her! Before I met her I thought I knew what love was, but now I know I was wrong, now I found THE ONE but too late?help
2006-12-07 07:19:25 · 22 answers · asked by Del Icious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, let's assume that she's really the person you love, and she loves you. WHY, for the sake of a child, would she not leave her husband? If he's violent... and doesn't love her...and treats her bad, and has girlfriends... the child is better off with mom, somewhere else. To me.... it doesn't sound like Chris's reasoning skills are very good... For the sake of her child, she SHOULD leave her husband...especially if she doesn't love him.
On another note.. are you sure, that you're not just the "next best thing" for Chris? I mean, let's be realistic... she's in a bad relationship, looking for a shoulder to cry on... she finds you, starts an affair, and is "in love" with you, but won't leave her hubby?? Sounds to me like, she and hubby both have major issues... they both cheat, they both need major help.
You should quit the job,and run far far away.
The ONLY person I feel sorry for in this situation, is the daughter. She's not in a safe place with either her mom, or dad.
2006-12-07 07:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your boss becomes violent and drinks is nothing new. Many people who drink excessively become violent and the violence often escalates to abuse of the wife and children. If not the children then they become very much afraid of the one who is abusive. What I would recommend is for Christina to give her husband an ultimatum despite her daughter loving her father. The ultimatum should be to stop the abuse and violence as well as drinking or divorce will be the result. It is not uncommon for a 3 year old to love dad and mom or have a favorite. You must remember, she is only 3 and she will get over being separated from her father. If Christina does not divorce or get away from her husband, things will escalate and she will suffer physical abuse and torment. Trust me.
2006-12-07 07:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play w/fire you get burned...obviously she doesnt care to much about what could happen if the husband/boss found out about you 2. She is leading you on for her own self indulgent spineless benefits. Oh hes a drunk and mistreats her but she loves you but wont leave the hubby cuz of the kid...B.S. get a grip..it aint that bad then or she is in it for the money so she so well deserves whats handed to her. Move on and find someone who will appreciate you...dont think for a minute that she knows how much you care for her and she dont care as long as it benefits her. Like I said...if she cared she'd leave you be for she has made the decision not to leave the MAN.
2006-12-07 07:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Im sorry to say you just a quick lay , a roll in hay , a booty call , do her actions seem familar to the way men do women she's playin you she would never divorce her husband for you you are just the lay the D*** on the side a f*** toy becuase if it was all that bad in her relationship she would have left went to a battered sheltar for women like I did and i had 3 kids and they loved there daddy to so its not as bad as she make out to be he is the money makeer and that's what she like's money ,sex, and smypothy ....... and you are just that kind of man. please find a nother love or screw her for time to time and leave your Im still looking mind open for the real women
2006-12-07 07:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant be selfish and attempt to ruin other people's lives.
like their daughter - what happens if she grew up without her dad cause of your love(sex ) needs. what happens if the husband finds out about you guys and kills himself and the business closes.
I know it sounds crazy - but so do you - a little.
Be a man.
You either need to act like an adult and if it is possible you guys can set ground rules and continue your love affair - if you can be mature about this which from the sounds of your question I may think you are borderline obsessed with this woman and that is not healthy - even for a normal relationship.
don't be selfish.
2006-12-07 07:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not right. Indifference is acting differently for situation from the way one has to act. If two person are crossing opposite in foot bridge where only one can pass at a time, it is normal act to give way to the first one who already entered to cross. But if one is forcing that first one to go back to allow self cross, it is an indifferent attitude. If one act normally, by allowing the first one to cross first, it does not mean that he loves him. It is just an act of normal human behaviour. So indifference is some thing against normal attitude in a given situation !
2016-03-28 22:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gets violent with her then tell her to divorce him. He can have visitation rights to his daughter and I am sure that the daughter will understand the reason for the divorce when you tell it to her after a couple of years.
2006-12-07 07:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by sudheesh s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be and it might not . but you are playing with fire my dear. and you should get out of it fast. fhere are other girls out there. you just have to look and they are not married to your boss. she knew what she was getting into before she married him. let her lay in it. she will never leave him for you because of her daughter, and if you truly love her and that child you will let it go. try to do something different. and stay away from her as much as possible. hate to see what your boss would do when and if he found out. the right one will come and its not her sorry.
2006-12-07 07:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really Loves her daughter and her dad is doing that it is not good for either of them to be in that situation. She needs to move on from that jerk and realize she has a good thing right in front of her. If she really loves you too she knows you are the best thing for her. Her daughter is young and she could still see her dad. She needs to make the adult decision.
2006-12-07 07:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by lustfulcalgal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE WRONG IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE THIS IS YOUR BOSS'S WIFE YOU NEED TO LET THAT GO AND LET HER WORK OUT HER OWN DEMONS AND WHEN SHE DOES THAT AND SHE IS SINGLE THAN YOU CAN PURSUE A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER UNTIL THEN ALL BETS ARE OFF. AND ANSWER THIS HOW CAN YOU LOVE U LOVE A MARRIED WOMAN? I DON'T THINK SO. MOVE ON.
2006-12-07 07:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋