Do you all believe in the saying 'once a cheater always a cheater'? Would you ever give a second chance to your significant other who cheated on you for the first time?
2006-12-07 07:17:55 · 18 answers · asked by moonylola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes... give it a shot if you want that person in your life. Find out why they cheated... what is missing that made them go elsewhere. You have to be courageous enough to accept that answer, though. The question is one of value - how much do you value each other? A sincere act of forgiveness can be a humbling thing. But the apology has to be sincere as well. And no, a cheater is not always a cheater, he or she can be smart enough to realize what was almost lost. Repeat cheaters are another issue.
2006-12-07 08:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by NaturalGuy 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You know what they say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." It's hard to regain that trust. Can you forgive AND forget that someone you cared about turned out to be a cheater? If yes, then the circumstance doesn't matter, right? Since you're able to forget the whole thing and give a second chance. Now that varies from each individual. If the person who cheated changes for the better, and the reason for cheating is worth forgiving and moving on, they okay.
2016-05-23 04:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may be possible for people to change but I would not ever be able to forgive a cheater. No matter how much I loved the guy I could not stay with him. I could forgive and move on without him but together I would forever be reminded that he completely disregarded my feelings and even physical well-being for sex.
If any guy could disregard me in such a complete manner I seriously doubt the depth of his feelings. Once the trust is gone I don't see much left. (and the trust isn't gone by chance--it's gone because he willingly, purposefully and happily shredded it.)
There are no second chances when it comes to Fidelity (for me). There are no second chances whether it is a dating relationship or a marriage. (in fact I would be more likely to forgive someone I was dating than my husband--the betrayal is just too great)
2006-12-07 07:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by artimis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do believe once a cheater always a cheater. Believe me i have experienced it. Caught my man cheating once and he told me he would never do it again only to find out about a month later he was still doing the same thing.
2006-12-07 08:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by mz_u_dont_know_me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a difficult one. I think it depends on the relationship. In my relationship, at this point in time, I would have to say yes. It would be very hard, but yes. Now, if you say you are going to forgive, that does not mean you forget, which is the problem. If you chose to forgive someone who has cheated on you, I believe there are somethings you must realise go with this. One is that after you have talked it over, and you have decided to forgive, NEVER throw it in the person's face or bring it up in a bad way again! Now if you can do this, then you can look on and move forward. If not, it will always be there haunting you and causing problems and the relationship will eventually die in the process.
2006-12-07 07:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i do believe that once a cheater always a cheater. i took a cheater back before and she cheated on me again so if someone cheats on you don't ever take them back. my girl had the same thing happen to her and alot of my friends in every case when they took the cheater back the cheater cheated agian.
2006-12-07 07:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by jam 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would personally. I cheated before with an old mate and now I couldn't see myself cheating. I guess it takes some people longer to grow up than others.
2006-12-07 07:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by i have a taste for waffles 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Natural Guy (who by the way needs to verify his email).
I also think that you can often build on a mistake to find new levels in intimacy. Give a chance not two or three but at least one.
2006-12-07 09:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is just to hard a thing to do while you may try and even think that you have been sucessful this may not be the case.One thing that can't be done is to forget. how can you really forgive when it keeps naging at you and you can not forget.
2006-12-07 07:26:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was single, i would have said no in a heartbeat. but then someone who i really had feelings for cheated on me, and I surprisingly forgave them, even though it took me awhile to get over it (still not thou) but i am over the worst partI know no that if it happens again, i am walking out the door and im not turning back.
if the relationship wasnt that serious then i probably wouldnt have forgiven thou
2006-12-07 07:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋