advice on my ex gf... shud i e mail her and tell her i stiil care but im sure she knows i do,?

Question

ok, i was goin out with this girl for about a year and three months she always told me she is really happy being in a serious relationship with me, then we had a fight three weeks ago she thought she was pregnant n wudnt talk to me she is not pregnant though it was a stupid fight, and she broke up with me 2 weeks ago, she said she doesnt want a relation ship anymore cause of the preassure, i havent really left her alone ive being calling her n stuff, and i know i shoulndnt do that cause that puts preassure on her and thats what she hates. its only been like 4 days since we didnt contact eachother, she said that she does still love me. do you think their is chance that she will come back if i give her space, and what do i do if i meet her on the street? do u think it might be too late? please help meadvice.
we are both 19 but i love her, i know im really young but i dont wana just give up hope yet... i think she is confused about what she wants, i want other oppinions,shud i email her

Answer 1

Send her an email that says:

I'm sorry if I'm pressuring you, but I just wanted you to know that I still love you very much and think about you every day. I'll always be here if you want me or need me, or just want to talk.

I won't bother you again, but contact me if you want to for any reason. I'll always be here. I love you blah blah blah

Thats it. Don't contact her again. That letter says it all. If she wants you, she'll find you.

Good luck.

Answer 2

If you know she loves you that's the best thing. Than you still have a chance!

You can write to her an email, it has to be cheerful, friendly, and short; invite her for something, maybe her favorite sport, or activity, whatever it is, it's better to be something that she's comfortable with, and something that is active, than she won't feel that there's any way that you are both going to talk about the relationship problems and stuff, avoid asking her for dinner, for coffee, or anything that spells out "this is a date"
If you can, make the first meeting in the afternoon.

To get rid of the pressure (and when you are trying to get back with ex's in general): It is best to "start over" as if you are going out for the first time, because if she is used to that whenever she sees you, you both talk about getting back together, or that you look upset and she remembers all the problems, the pressure will always be there-- That's why, you have to show her that you are coming to her for other reasons, you just want to hang out and have fun--- things should drift to the right direction on their own ^__-

(in other words don't mention the words, relationship--love--problem, exc. after all, you wouldn't do that on your first date would you? That also applies to kissing her and stuff, treat everything like a first date :) if she makes the first move it's ok. But you don't make any moves at first. Just stick to fun topics. Take her to where ever she likes.

(Though I think it is very important to think about the fight and what exactly she was expecting from you. (this issue seems to be still bugging her) She'll probably want to talk about that later, and you've got to have all the answers or else things could start getting strained again.)

Also, it's true 19 is young, but yet, you are not a kid, you are a young adult, so you two should try to find ways to work issues out together, because there will always be something coming up in life that you both have to deal with.

(by the way if you see her in the street greet her! Be cheerful :)
Relax :)
Usually people are a mirror of what they see.

Wish you all the best! ^___^

Answer 3

If she loves you, then she will come back to you without you e-mailing her. Make one last statement to her spelling out clearly your feelings and intentions and then cease contact. If she wants to be with you she will come back, if not, you need to look elsewhere. Remember, she may seem like "the one," but there are many others out there, I know, I have been in your shoes. Most importantly, free yourself mentally from her for the time being. I know, it is easier said than done, but give it a shot. In the meantime, if you stumble upon somebody else, do not ignore her for the sake of the possible reunion with your ex!

Answer 4

Pregnancy scares can be tough for anyone, especially a teen. That is a situation that can drastically make a person take stock of his or her life, especially one's goals and aspirations for the future. It might be hard for her to see how she can fit a relationship into her life right now.

As far as what to do, I would try to let her know that you care deeply for her and offer your support. Maybe sending a heartfelt card, letter or email will help. Let her know that you are there for her. That is really all you can do.

Just remember to take care of yourself, too. Sometimes we can get so worried about those we care about that we lose sight of what we need.

Good luck and take care.

Answer 5

tell her how u feel, but just once, if it is meant to be, and she feels the same about u she will come back to u. than don't call her again, and just wait and see. she wants to feel safe with you, wants changes, she doesn't want a relationship if it is going to hurt her.