my wife is 22 and im 27 have been together for about 5 years married for about 2 years. recently she told me she was talking to her supervisor for 2 weeks over the phone. she tells me nothing ever happen and want me to forgive her and trust her again. what should i do, should i forgive and move on, i do love. cand i ever trust her again? will she do it again?
2006-12-07 07:16:13 · 45 answers · asked by caragon27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if you talk like you write, I can see why she'd want to talk to someone else.
2006-12-07 07:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It must have bothered her enough to be honest with you and talk to you about it. Since it was only on the phone, I would let it go, but keep an eye out for anything again. Trust is very important and must be re-earned. There is no telling if she will do it again, however, she could have said nothing and then I would think that.
2006-12-07 07:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was growing up if you were talking to somebody something sexual ewas going on. Once there is a hint of mis trust things will never be the same. I might suggest counseling or communication with your wife to find out what was going on what was said, where was her head at, did she have feelings for this person, and most off all is she still in love with you.
2006-12-07 07:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by M.D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All she did was speak to someone on the phone, are you speaking to her enough or are you expecting her just to be there when you want her.
She felt bad enough to tell you, that should tell you that she would never cheat.
Your asking advice from men and Women, does that make you a bad person?
If you would throw away 5 years over a few phone calls then you sound like you have a few other issues.
2006-12-07 07:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either got caught (wife or work).
She got cold feet, or she did it and regrets it.
You can live with it, I wouldn't get hung up on it.
its like this, i told my wife i was getting a tattoo with the kids
names and she said what about my name,
i told her you could leave today and then ill i got
is this tattoo i don't want.
I'd work it so you could get a 3some out of it.
This is you have to get over your jealousy.
Tell her look if your going to mess around then let me know
before someone else tells me, and if thats the way we're going
to play then i can do it also. Then ask for her hottest friends phone number. LMOL, good luck, but hey she probably wasn't a
virgin when ya met her.
2006-12-07 07:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by nehkedfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is truly repentive, and she wants to go to therapy to find out what the problem is than i would give her another chance. no one can tell if someone will ever cheat again, guess if u love her u will need to have faith in her. it will take awhile before your ready to trust completely again. communication is a must, the way you communicate is also important, she needs to feel she can trust you with anything she has to say, she needs to know you love her unconditionally. if u love her the only thing you can do is trust her and keep your faith.
2006-12-07 07:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hink all you can do is take her at her word..**** happens and Im pretty sure you have done something maybe not as bad but she's had to trust you or take you at your word. Give her another chance and put that behind you. Marriage is about trust and if you don't have that then you don't have nothing. Trust me
2006-12-07 07:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need to know why she did that. People don't cheat just to cheat. Their had to be a reason. You should really sit her down and talk to her in a calm way. After you talk to her then decide whether you will be able to trust her and work on your relationship
2006-12-07 07:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is a very important thing in a relationship, if she has cheated on you, you may forgive, but you will never forget, and trust will not come easy, my husband and i have been together 5 years and married for 4 (dec 31) and when we started out we were best friends and dated for 1 year moved in and the first week were were together in our new home he had 4 yes 4 other women he was involved with i didnt know but when i did it broke my heart, but we made it threw it, but with help, first he told his whole family what he did, we together went to this one woman who he had been involved with for years off and one. it was hard to know what they had done together and i wanted details and i wanted them both to know what it had done to me i gave them the option to carry on, or walk away, she even went as far as to say a baby was on the way, but it wasnt and trust was hard to get back,, but if you are truely in love and want this to work you have to be honest and she has to be very open and understanding to your question, if you feel it will never stop or this is just a start to a cheater, protect yourself and remember you are the only one who know what you can deal with for the rest of yourlife, and if there are children involved remember they need someone to protect them... if you would like to talk me and my husband will be glad to let you get you feeling and questions out, i hooe that this was a one time thing for her and that she will give you the same respect that you would give to her..... killips1@yahoo.com
2006-12-07 07:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by killips1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she told you nothing has yet happen and she came to you and told you well i would say forgive this one dont trust too much keep one eye open all the time untill you can be for sure that she is not doing it again......try counseling maybe that will help
2006-12-07 07:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd forgive her she didn't do anything. from what you say that you two have been together since she was 17 (interesting math with your age...) she never had time to go out and experience life,party, date, see what else is out there. maybe she was just seeing what would happen, didn't like what she saw and came back so to speak, in other words she wants you and now she has proof
2006-12-07 07:24:00 · answer #11 · answered by Lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋