What to do with my bi gfrend?

Question

I met this stunning woman in a chat room, we hit it of instantly chemistry, we met a week after and talked for hours, its two months now and feels like I have known her all my life. We have spent alot of time together, She thinks she's bi but would prefer a casual fling, she has a bfriend. I am married and my hubbi knows that I am bi. We kissed and it was great. We have realised that I would read more into it because it would never be casual if we made love. Strange as this may sound, we have realised that we are soul mates, and in this little time we love each other a great deal, My dilemma I want to explore this relationship further and she thinks I would just get hurt. I need to this, to be with a wman, not sex but holding hands, kissing that sort. My hubbi and I are honest always and he has given me the freedom to explore as long as we are honest. What should I do its hard to be around her and not want to just lean over and kiss her

Answer 1

It's easy to confuse friendship and love, and making someone happy and physical interaction. My best friend is a bi girl, we had dated for a little bit. As much as we have in common and as much as we care about, there is a line between lovers and friends. You can love your new friend, hug and kiss, hold hands,
but why do any more? You might endanger your marriage, no matter how understanding a husband you have, envy is innevitable, would you let him be with another person?

Personally, I've fallen for people fast, more than a few times, because we had so much in common. Take a week or so to get to know her better, I promise there are differences, maybe some huge flaw you don't know about her.

Also, take a look at your own life from a third person perspective. There might be a reason you could have fallen for someone new quickly. Are you recovering from a hard time? Fallen into a rut of boredom? Lonely?

I didn't want to make things more complicated, but matters of the heart always are. Take more time before you jeopordize your marriage, and do something you'll regret.

On a positive note, all three of you could have some amazing sex together, but unless your regular swingers, it'll kill the relationships.

Answer 2

Tell her exactally how you feel. No matter what be honest with her you never know what could happen but it doesn't hurt to speak up and say something. If you don't say anything she will never know. She can't read your thoughts. Try it and see.

Answer 3

You should just tell her how you feel. If she is dead set on keeping it casual, then really consider if you want to pursue a relationship with her despite those circumstances. You don't want to become emotionally attached to someone who doesn't want to be with you.

Answer 4

Do some reading on polygamy. It is possible to make this work if you all know how to make polygamy work and what problems to avoid.