Huge life decision: Move to Michigan to be with my boyfriend or have my boyfriend move to Illinois to be with me? Michigan is where we grew up, both families are there, but it's a small town and I think I'd be bored there. Illinois (Chicago) is more fast paced and fun, but it's more expensive to live, my boyfreind would have to quit his good job and find another one, and long term living in the city isn't what I really want, just for while I'm young and childless... I just really don't know what to choose. I need to choose by March- that's when my lease is up.
2006-12-07 06:48:13 · 14 answers · asked by Sarah S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From my own experience if you know that Chicago is not where you want to be later, or not where you want to end up, you should move now while you can. Life only gets more complicated down the road and there may be things that you can't foresee that prevent you from leaving later - like a good paying job. I agree that it isn't wise to have him move to Chicago without a job. He should line up a job first then move once he knows he will have income if that is the route you choose.
My parents moved to Chicago because of a job my father was offered. They only intended to stay for a few years. Twenty something odd years later they are still here and hating it - tied down by their jobs. Moving only gets harder the farther along you go. Good luck in whatever decision you choose.
2006-12-07 06:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you moving would be smarter if he has a good job and it is cheaper to live in Michigan then that is a good place to build your relationship and see where it is going to go. You mention that living in the city is not something you want to do long term well then I'm not sure how far you are from Detroit if you move back home but roadtrips are a nice getaway and well it gives you that city time. Anyways with the number of questions asked about divorce, cheating, and other stuff your guy sounds decent so make the move and live life you never know what what will happen. God Bless and Good Luck.
2006-12-07 06:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you engaged to be married? Do you and your boyfriend plan on getting married? This is an important thing to think about before doing all the other things that committed couples do. Moving and rearranging ones life, whether its yours or his, is a very big thing to consider. I would sit down together and really brainstorm on this one. You must take into deep consideration eachothers needs and come to a mutual conclusion. If not, the possibility of resentment and bitterness down the road is increased. Looking at the big picture is a serious must. Try to approach this issue from as many directions as possible; weighing the pros and cons of such a move. Seek additional advice from family, but not demands or instructions. The decision is yours and his. Make it together. Good luck.
2006-12-07 07:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Goober W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just a boyfiend. Let him stay where his job is. It is difficult to uproot a person where his bread and butter comes from unless you help him find a job. Don't you want a permanent relationship and start a family where you both came from. You can just go once in a while for vacations in the city if having a good time is what you want. Being young and in love you can have fun anywhere just by being together. The location does not matter.
2006-12-07 07:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your boyfriend come to you. If you decide you want the small town life after you are married and have kids, then is the time to move. Don't give up your fun in the city to be near the guy. That's just my opinion.
2006-12-07 06:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go back to Michigan for awhile since he is working. You never know things may change for you. If your still not happy with being back in the small town that would be a decision for both of you to decide.
2006-12-07 06:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by wyattj23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving to Chicago with no job isn't a bright idea. Why not move to Michigan where he has a job and see what happens. If he moves to Chicago and you guys don't work out in six months, won't you feel pretty bad for costing him his job? If you're in Michigan and it doesn't work out, you at least have your family to turn to.. there's plenty of time to move to Chicago later in life- for now if you have to move, move smart.
2006-12-07 06:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to Michigan, but you guys could visit Illinois.
2006-12-07 06:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long term it is always very helpful to have family around, so I would tend toward Michigan. But it all depends on your vibes regarding how far this relationship will go. If unsure, then stay put.
2006-12-07 07:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by Julian A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 04:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋