I'm 25. I have been with my fiance for four years. We were engaged this past spring. I love him and our life. I have never cheatd on him before. We don't have an open relationship but I long to sew my wild oats while I'm still young, before I settle down for good. There is a man my age who is willing to indulge in a purely physical relationship with me, no strings attached, and it will only continue for as long as I like. Those are the terms. And it is as important for him to keep it our business as it is for me to keep it secret from my fiance.
2006-12-07 06:24:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey let me tell you something from a married womans perspective.
If you want to cheat on him now, it's not going to go away after you are married! It will just be worse!
Leave him, tell him you love him, but you need to figure out yourself before you get married, and go do what you have to do, maybe you can get back togeather with him after you are done, maybe you can't, but it's not a good idea to open that door in any relationship and they say that if you cheat once, you'll do it again.
The other option is to get married, and never think of having sex with another man ever again.
But honestly the way you phrased "I love him, and our life" I have a feeling it's more the "life" then it is him. It's easy to build up a life with someone and not really love them anymore.
I hope you make the right choice.
2006-12-08 13:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by chickennosenshi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better think about what you are doing... If you love your life and your fiance, you wouldn't think twice. You would know that this is wrong. You could jeopardize the last four years as well as your future. Do you want to take that kind of chance? Even if your fiance' didn't find out ( but he will) You will always know that you were dishonest. Not a very good way to start out a marriage.
If you need to sew your wild oats--do the right thing and break up with him and let him find someone who wouldn't think about being unfaithful. I apologize for being abrupt but, my God. Would you be okay with him having an affair at this stage of your relationship? I doubt it...
2006-12-07 06:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Maddy's Mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey this wild oat ..itch in your pants needs to stop.Sounds like your really not ready for a life of commitment to your fiance. If you want to sew those oats better forget about getting married. After you say I Do you will be tempted again down the road . I say either marry or break it off with hubby to be. Trust me he will find out sooner or later that you were unfaithful to him. So either put up or shut up ..
2006-12-07 06:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! If you are acutally considering cheating on your fiance, you should not get married. You dont really love your fiance, if you are thinking about cheating. You seem to not be ready for a committed marraige if you want to get your "wild side" out.
You need to sit down with your fiance, and tell him you are not ready to marry yet. Cheating is NEVER the right thing to do.
2006-12-07 06:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by TeraBytes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your fiance cheated on you? Remember what goes around comes around. If you love someone you have no desire to be with someone else. You should rethink your engagement FOR REAL. I'm glad your not engaged to my brother. Once a cheat always a cheat.....and you will do it again after your married if you meet another sexy bad boy......
2006-12-07 06:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex was once a foul boy, I was once the well woman and I nonetheless am! consistently will likely be ^^ I was once too "dull" for him, I prefered to visit a library over a occasion, consistently refused to head out to nightclubs with him, each and every occasion he went I was once not ever there so I suppose he desired a woman that would do the ones matters with him that woman wasn't me so he broke it off with me, we have been WAY too one-of-a-kind from every different, years later he's now engaged to a woman who's plenty like himself and has his unhealthy methods too, so I wager they fall in love with ladies very similar to themselves
2016-09-03 10:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by brickman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not betray the man who loves you for a moment of hot passion, as the price you pay may be something you will have to live with the rest of your life.
2006-12-07 06:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by min_trang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love your fiance, you wouldn't even be thinking of this. You don't need to have "one last fun time" prior to getting married. If you're contemplating this tryst, you need to re-evaluate your relationship with your fiance.
2006-12-07 06:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why get married? Then you can go to bed with whoever you want, whenever you want and without worrying about remorse. Of course there is AIDS, HIV, syph, etc.
2006-12-07 06:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you positive he doesn't have an STD? Why would you marry someone if you want to cheat? See you on Maury for that DNA test.
2006-12-07 06:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋