I'm 18 years old and I like girls. All my friends know. But my parents don't. How do I tell my parents?
My dad is a methodist pastor and my mom is a strict christian.
They both believe that a homosexual is a straight person waiting for the right man or woman.
2006-12-07 06:22:23 · 23 answers · asked by muse_of_haunted_memories13 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just come out and tell them.....
2006-12-07 06:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by lemes03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on your parents. It's really nice to be honest with them and not have to disguise such an important aspect of yourself, but there are some parents who would have a bad reaction- disowning the kid, being disappointed, acting as though the kid is sick and unfortunate, or trying to "fix" the kid.
Parents often don't understand that when their kid opens up and is honest with them, they need to return that trust by showing acceptance and respect.
You know your parents better than anyone else. How would they feel? Would they react with acceptance or be upset? Would they now be torn over whether to tell THEIR parents, siblings, and other close family members? Do they think homosexuality is a sin? Have they promised to love you no matter what?
My uncle is gay and was accepted as such by his entire family. If I were to tell my parents I was gay, they would be perfectly fine with it. However, they aren't strict Christians.
2006-12-07 06:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you wait a while, possibly never. No harm in just not telling them - follow your heart, but understand that you can't convince those that are incapable of understanding. Eventually they may figure it out for themselves, but if they think that a homosexual is a straight person waiting for the right man or woman that shows that they are clueless about the subject. Good luck to you.
2006-12-07 06:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that on the gay side. You just have to set them down and tell them. There is no easy way. You have to be firm though when you do it. Do not let them take control of the conversation or your feelings. Do not ask for them to accept it but rather this is how it is. That comes later. Just tell them and talk about a few points you might want them to know and then that is it. Keep it simple.
2006-12-07 06:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being honest is not always the option taken by many but sweetheart this is your life, your only life, Live it dont merely exist. Be bold be honest and then can you only be free. Your parents may understand or the may never understand but you can be comforted by the fact that you are a loving, caring person who is proud of who the are, so good luck angel.
2006-12-07 06:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by leo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to financially AND emotionally prepare yourself first before telling your parents about your hidden lifestyle. Be sure you are ready to face their disappointment, make efforts to understand their feelings so you can handle them better.
And be ready to be shown the door out too, something I pray doesn't happen, but it's best to be prepared should such happen.
Differences exist between hiding your rainbow and being discreet about having it for your lifestyle. Know the differences and be sure to let your parents know you opt to keep the lifestyle open, but done discreetly.
2006-12-07 06:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth and have some friends around u for surport. Siblings to if u have them. As for me I'm Methodist and have nothing agaisn't gay humans. They might refuse to believe it but over time they will get it and will except your whole self.
Also my Methodist Chruch doesn't practice that gay people go to hell.
2006-12-07 07:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a story called The Shrouded Rainbow and leave it out on the coffee table.
2006-12-07 06:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is going to be a tough question to answer. It may cause a lot of pain in your family, are you sure you want to do this at this time? I would hope that you would wait until you have moved out and are living on your own. Good luck sweetie.
2006-12-07 06:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you're a lesbian, and that they could wait their entire lives and you'll never find "the right man" because you are not interested in men. And tell them that if they try to set you up with a man, you will stop talking to them until they can accept you for who you are.
2006-12-07 06:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Izzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fail to understand why you feel they need to know what you do with your pubic stuff. What if you bring your GF home for an overnight (weekend) and you sleep together?? No blatant sex thing, just lovers???? You think they will come unglued? I don't think they will even notice>
Be normal, don't hide but don't be rude either.
Hundreds of thousands of women have female partners, roommates and intimate mates. Whats new? It is too easy for girls.
2006-12-07 07:37:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋