I have this friend who I think may be a lesbian(we have never discussed it) We have been hanging out lately and I am soooo attracted to this girl..I think we flirt with each other but I am not sure.We hang out, we talk everyday and night..At night we talk for hours.She come over and we find reasons to touch each other-like playing..Lastnight she came over and she laid in my bed...she touched my arm a couple of times and ran her fingers through my hair....I keep think to myself-i really wanna kiss her soooo bad but I am so afraid she may not be a lesbian. I have never dated a girl but I am going crazy over this girl....I think she flirts with me and I flirt but neither of one of us has taken it pass flirting...I sent her a message saying I was feeling her but she has ti figure it out.. left words out of the message because I didn't want to come out and say- I like you!!! Could I be wrong about her.She doesn't have a boyfriend-she hangs out with other lesbians.I am so scared to open up.
2006-12-07 06:20:13 · 21 answers · asked by curious girl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It seems obvious that she likes you in that way. I think she is afraid to make a move because she doesn't know where you stand. In fact, she may have the same questions about you and fears scaring you away. The fact that she hangs out with a lot of lesbians shows that she is open-minded and will probably not be upset if you hit on her or outright ask her if she is into you.
If you are too shy to come out and tell her that you like her as more than a friend, try her approach. She sounds very "touchy-feely" with you. Why don't you do the same? Play with her hair, touch her hand...see what her reaction is. If she flinches you could always play it off as just friendliness on your part. Yet, from what you have described, she will probably be quite receptive...
2006-12-07 16:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by SeekingTheTruth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty much the same question a girl has to ask about a male friend she likes.
The bottom line is, does she like you in that way or not? Even if she's a lesbian, she might not think of you as anything other than a good friend.
If she hangs out with lesbians, you should feel comfortable having conversations about homosexuality with her- she won't judge you. Just don't mention yet that YOU have feelings for HER.
This advice is very true, and it applies to both homosexual and heterosexual relationships:
Many good friendships are destroyed by dating.
You sound like you have a very good friend, and wouldn't you much rather keep her as a friend forever than risk losing it all by dating, winding up having relationship problems, eventually breaking up and never speaking to each other again?
2006-12-07 06:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play the get to know you game and ask her how she feels about lesbians and if she would ever be interested in trying it out. If she says yes then go from there. Just dont bombard her with how you feel, take it easy. Tell her she is pretty and just be nice and then ask her to spend the night. OH, or you could play truth or dare, and if she wants a dare then dare her to kiss you. Just some food for thought.
2006-12-07 06:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she likes you, but if she isn't open about her sexuality she might not want others to know just yet. But she isn't going to back down from a kiss, trust me. And dont try to read between the lines on everything, somethings need to be talked about directly, so you know you aren't reading the wrong message. If she isn't ready to make a committment to you, or if she is just scared of what others might think of her, then respect that and let her know you still care. She will come around.
2006-12-07 06:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Pirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be cautious and wait for the right moment. Sometimes telling the person out loud can ruin the friendship. Next time you two are playing then that's the time to make the real "tickle" on her. You'll know then if she like it or not. Make it fun if you do cause it is all about being relaxed with who you're playing with.
2006-12-07 06:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by J.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she already hangs out with other lesbians, then it wouldn't come to no surprise if you sneak her a kiss. I think she would understand if she is not a lesbian. But if she is really touching you more than a straight girl would, then just do it!
2006-12-07 06:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Isaac C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GO FOR IT! You two are definitely flirting and definitely interested in each other. It's just neither of you has taken it to the next level. Somebody just needs to make a move...
2006-12-07 06:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that she likes u, and i think that you should tell her maybe u cant tell her with word of mouth but u can write her a letter and the next time she comes over have her read it. But i am for sure that she likes u too much touchie feelie goin on.
2006-12-07 06:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guess hun is she is one. I mean all the signs are there is how it sounds. Just tell her how you feel and if u wanna kiss her tell her when u are alone and laying in bed like that again tell her look (name) I really like you and I wanna kiss you. Is it ok if I kiss you now? I hope I helped some let me know how it goes. Good luck
2006-12-07 06:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Brooklyn Mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok simple u like this girl. She knows ur a lesbian then go for it i know it can be hard but stroking your hair. ;) cmon girlie its a hint make a move u will feel better for it cheers :)
2006-12-07 06:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by bill_will76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋