I need some advice......I know I've asked this a few times, but the answers seem to stall out after a while and I'm just trying to get some advice from a bunch of different people....
I've read many posts out there regarding different things that turn me on, but my wife won't go near them, (specifically stockings, high heels & anal sex) and it seems like many on here really get into that.
Anyone out there know how to help me? (outside of any snide remarks regarding divorce, looking at porn, etc...) If we ever do go out....her heels are the first thing off when we get home...even if I try to sweep her off her feet. (and they're pretty tame, not all that high anyway-like kitten heels almost).....
2006-12-07 06:19:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is not all about me...I am asking because we do things her way all the time....she's on top (which I don't mind) and its right before we go to sleep....I love giving oral, but she doesn't always want that...I'd do that every night if I could
2006-12-07 06:26:53 · update #1
I really think you have to approach this carefully. First of all, for a woman to be a little more adventurous in the bedroom she has to feel that you think she is beautiful and sexy. She has to feel comfortable with the knowledge that she drives you crazy. Tell her these things and let her know what you feel for her. Compliments go a long way. Tell her exactly what turns you on about her. You might be surprised how things will change. Go to the store with her and pick something out, tell her how much it would mean to you. You have let her know if she doesn't care for it, you will drop it but please try it once. I know this can be frustrating, but just be gentle and she may surprise you. Best of luck.
2006-12-07 06:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here you have yourself a situation, because I'm assuming that you have spoken to your wife about how much these things turn you on and yet she still refuses to accomidate your desires. Even as you swept her off her feet?! Wow. Well the only thing I can suggest is to seek marriage counsiling, I mean marriage is a 50/50 and its all about sacrifices and give and take, I mean in all reality if she wants to keep her husband satisfied and at home than she has to sacrifice these things for you which I don;t feel like your asking too much I mean come on high heels and stockings?! Most ladies enjoy turning their husband on. Well good luck to you, but I feel the problem lies in your wife and her possible insecurity issues.
2006-12-07 06:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Susie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be unable to perform because the things that you mentioned tend to be on the "dirty" side to most women...unless she's open to this kind of thing you probably won't get her to do it at all...some girls are raised that there are just some things that aren't done...not even when intimate with someone that is a serious partner can some women step out of the "good girl" image and "lower" themselves to do something that might shame them in some way if someone were to find out...that's my best guesstimate
2006-12-07 06:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 06:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by winkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High heels, stockings and anal sex may turn you on, but if they turn her off, don't expect her to do it. Buy some nice oils and give her a great massage - you may both get turned on, in the process.
2006-12-07 06:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and buy her an entire outfit heels and all, rent a hotel room, decorate it with rose peatls and have champagne there on ice. Go out to dinner and then take her to the hotel. Leave her outfit on the bed and when you get there tell her to go change into the outfit you bought her.
2006-12-07 06:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the relationship is ALL ABOUT YOU... Nowhere in your post do you mention what might turn HER on! Sounds like both of you could use a sex therapist...
2006-12-07 06:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her.... shes your wife, you should be able to communicate your wants and sounds like needs... she shouldn't think it stupid if its what you want...
2006-12-07 06:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋