My wife and I love each other very much. We want to spruce up our sex lives so I told her that I would make her sexual fantasy come true. Her fantasy is to have sex with two men at the same time. I told her that I want to make this come true for her as long as it was with someone neither of us knew. She agreed. We both feel (now) that because we love each other so much that we would be okay afterward. What do you think? You only live once, right?
2006-12-07 06:11:59 · 16 answers · asked by dougstain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be careful about this; threesomes can be problems for relationships. (They can also be great)
Set some rules in advance - about kissing, or how much time you each spend, or whatever you're not comfortable with. Get it out in the open. Then make sure you both get to veto the other's choice of partner. Also, don't assume this means she 'owes' you a threesome with a woman.
There are lots of places online with advice on having threesomes; check some of them out.
2006-12-07 06:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common women fantasy. But has a lot of risks. Threesomes are not like regular sex, they require both imagination and sensitivity. If you plan on having a threesome, you need to go into the situation with some idea of what you're going to be doing.
Rule 1: Establish the rules (it may be difficult with total stranger).
You're going to have sex with two persons and all three of you have your own rules and limits, so understanding and respecting each other's comfort levels should be a top priority. You must respect your husbands wishes. If he is not comfortable with you being penetrated or giving the oral sex to a man you shouldn't do it.
Rule #2. Be as giving as you can
Pleasure your parners with hands and mouth and enjoy what it comes your way.
Rule 3: Be careful with penetration
Use penetrative sex only when you're sure both partners are comfortable with it.
All three of you should be sexually satisfied and even if you achieve climax first, you must do everything you can to bring your two partners to orgasm.
There is no guarantee that you will try and stop it, most likely if both will like it you will repeat experience. If only one will like it what will prevent him or you to try it again with the remaining spouse suspicious and feeling hurt. Do not open a pandora box.
Keep it better in the fantasy cloud.
2006-12-07 14:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that only a very few people could actually go through with something like that and be okay afterwords.
Are you sure you can handle seeing another man all over your wife, touching, kissing etc. I know that I couldn't.
You should first ask yourself, why does she want to be with another man. Yeah I know a fantasy, but in the long run, it's probably not worth it.
There are ways to help her feel the "experience" of two men, without actually having another man there. If you know what I mean. Get some toys... use them while you're also "with" her. It's a lot of fun and very satisfying for her.
Good luck....
2006-12-07 14:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by jairman2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Boy! What you feel now might be totally different from what you feel afterwards. Better be VERY certain that it will be OK after and not just OK as it looks now.......
If OK, you might open up a whole new and exciting phase of your sex lives. Good luck either way!
2006-12-07 14:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by michael g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few friends that do things like that all the time and they are alright with it but however the female in the relationships are bi. So they share a female. She picks out the female and he approves. They do what they do and everyone seems happy about it. They were together 2 years and are still together with 2 kids.....
2006-12-07 14:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a few of my friends do this and it never turned out good. Maybe you should try taking her to a strip cluba nd buying her a dance. See how that goes and how you both feel with another man dancing on her before you let another man touch your wife.
2006-12-07 14:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will always play on your mind whether he was better than you.
Also, watch the movie Zebra Lounge starring Stephen Baldwin & directed by Kari Skogland and then decide for yourselves.
2006-12-07 14:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately not a good idea! Threesomes cause major jealousy and distrust issues within relationships. Even strong ones.
2006-12-07 14:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both agreed to, have fun. Just a word to the wise: I hope (for your sake) that you are a better lover than the other guy! Merry Christmas!
2006-12-07 14:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Therese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on you guys. Threesomes have ruined millions of relationships though. People get jealous and insecure and push eachother away. But if you're going to do it, good luck!
2006-12-07 14:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋