2006-12-07 06:05:05 · 23 answers · asked by meelee9532 1 in Home & Garden ➔ Garden & Landscape
If this is his third time I would think he needs to spend a little time there.Maybe he will learn a good lesson.At the least he will see what it is like to have his freedom taken away and might think twice before he screws up again.
ps:this hasn't worked for my son YET!
2006-12-07 06:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by clueless1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't. My son has been in jail twice, the first time I got his butt out but the second time he had to stay 3 days before his father got him out. He had to sleep on the floor of the jail because it was so full. So he slept in other peoples waste! This taught him a valuable lesson. If this is his third time in jail I wouldn't spend my hard earned money on his bail. Teach him a lesson and maybe he won't get into trouble the next time. My son knows now I am not getting his *** out of a crack anymore. I know it is hard for a mother to see her son in jail but kids have to grow up some time.
2006-12-07 06:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by jlynncogbill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No maam I would let him sit and learn a lesson out of love. Sorry to hear that your son is taking you through that. Any mother wants the best for your child...I'm a mother of three children. It's heartbreaking for a mother to see their child headed in the wrong direction. But if this is his third time something is not clicking in his mind that he is playing with fire. Maybe he hasn't really learned the lesson yet to do everything to prevent going to jail..At his age sometimes all the talking in the world won't help. Young men and women sometimes seem to think that they're invincible and "It won't happen to me" They don't understand how easy trouble is to find and how difficult it can be getting out of trouble.
My 19 year old brother got into preventable trouble by not listening to my sister and I. He has an attitude that he doen't want to hear anything we have to say...The night my sister told him to stay in the house...He left at 7:00p.m. catching the bus somewhere. That night he was in jail...Now he's on probation, and was facing a jail sentence. He got out of the sentence, and still makes dumb decisions. It's like he didn't really learn anything. I told my sister I hate to say it but if he doesn't listen tough love will be his teacher. Not trying to be cruel but sometimes a hard bruise makes a soft but.
2006-12-07 07:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly have to say no. After the third time I think its time to let him sit in there and figure out what he's doing wrong. Jail isnt a nice place and with enough time spent it will help him straighten himself out. It's hard to leave them there but it's called tough love and some times you have to practice it
2006-12-07 06:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bail him out the frist time let alone the third. I have tried to teach my kids right from wrong and that they have to deal with the consequences of their actions no matter what they may be. If he did something that landed him in there, let him stay until the judge says he can go.
2006-12-07 06:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by lavendertg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sarah, I know this is a really tuff decision for you. I am retired department of corrections worker. I have seen lots of men and women come and go for different reasons. I do not know the situation of your son, nor his age, nor his offense. All of my decisions would be based on those things.
Then again, if it is for the third time, maybe he just is not going to learn. He thinks you will always be there to bail him out. Practice tuff love on him. Let him go and do his time, maybe if you dont bail him out he will learn. It will be rough for you I am sure, but I have seen this a thousand times, parents get their kids out of too much and they never learn their lesson...if it were mine, no, I would say you are on your own.
2006-12-07 08:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Joyce D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sarah , i too have faced this problem. my only advice to you
is ,if you as his Mother don't make a stand now, your son
will never learn to stand on his own two feet .
I also know this is not an easy thing for a Mother to do !
I wish you the best of luck with this .
2006-12-07 11:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by jae 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old is he ?did he pay u back the bail from the other 2 times. jail is not a good place he is your son.
2006-12-07 06:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Steve C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The groundings in simple terms enabled him. He might now comprehend that he would not prefer to spend to any extent further time in juvenile detention. you will possibly be able to pass slightly further and see if the interior of sight government will enable him to take a excursion of a close-by reformatory. Many areas have a "Scared right this moment software", which will take young infants on the sting, and supply them an thought of the place they might land up.
2016-12-13 04:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how you feel about your son, and what he did to land him there a third time,
2006-12-07 06:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by maria fkun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋