my husband left six months ago. we spend family time together and try to go on dates. we have long talks about why he is not back yet. i deceided to tell him last week come home or it is time to move on. at first he said ok now he wants more time. how long is too long and should i go ahead and move on?
2006-12-07 05:54:10 · 12 answers · asked by M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he doesn't want to move on, fine. But don't let that keep you from moving on. Consider your options with the kids, and decide what you want to do for them and yourself.
2006-12-07 05:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by poisonette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he needs more time, then give it to him...Maybe he has found someone else and is seeing how that is working out...You two need to have an honest conversation with each other about who you are seeing and what feelings are in that relationship...
Your husband needs more time for two reasons, another woman is making him happy or you have done something so wrong that he's not sure if it can be rekindled...
I don't think I would seperate with my hubby to get back together because other lives are affected and more than one person will get hurt, children also may come about....I think just seperate and file for a divorce because its not worth breaking up and getting back together unless the two of you will not see other people during your time apart...
2006-12-07 07:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he isn't dating anyone but you, then give the man some time. But, if your feelings are changing towards him with this separation, then it's up to you to move on. 6 months over all is a short time period, but if he doesn't know by now, give him a set time limit (say 1 more month) and if he hasn't moved back in, then see a lawyer and get the divorce action going.
2006-12-07 05:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are giving him his cake and feeding it to him too. enough is enough, as long as he knows you are waiting, he will not come home. start being independent and not so available. when he wants to spend family time, don't do it. I am asuming you have children so when he wants the family time, give him the kids and go out, even if there is no where to go. when he sees you are not waiting he will come home (if he loves you) if not well at least you didn't waste any more time.
2006-12-07 05:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been too long. He's playing games with you, and you're being gullible. Cut all ties, and move on. Why waste your time when you can start the healing process, and get on the road to find someone who takes relationships seriously.
2006-12-07 06:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For whatever reasons you are allowing life to pass you by. His decision is made or he would have returned. You need to live life and not wait any longer. Be the bigger person here, be strong and start focusing on "self."
2006-12-07 05:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he needs time, then give it to him. You guys separated for a reason and the reason is time to figure what the future will be between you two.
2006-12-07 05:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by kcarter0429 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sick of waiting, it is too long.
File for divorce, that has a way of putting life into perspective. You pushed the ultimatum, now live up to it.
2006-12-07 06:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your heart tell you? follow your heart...if you love this man you will wait as long as you have to.
2006-12-07 05:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an iffy one ... if you two are getting alone than you can stay but if he is giving you to many excuses then i would move on....
2006-12-07 05:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by yelenia0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋