I like to hang out with the boys when my wife comes home from work. I'm not doing any thing else, I don't leave the complex, I usually don't come in the house until like 3am before she leaves for work at 4am, and she said thats not cool
2006-12-07 05:42:52 · 29 answers · asked by 首相悪 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No its not cool. whats going on that you have to leave out with your boys as soon as she gets in from work. I would be pissed its like they are more important to you. She is your wife if you loved her you would treat her as such and that means spending time with her. I don't think you want to be with her if your leaving to hang outside when she gets home from work and not coming back in until its time for her to leave in the morning.. You need to evaluate what you want because I'm sure she has an idea and its not her
2006-12-07 05:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by 女性ウルバリン 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hanging out with "the boys " is fine sometimes but not all the time .When your wife comes home from work she wants to spend time with you and you should want to be with her not out with "the boys " if not then there is a definate problem there and you and onlty you know what it is. If spending time with your wife is not something you like to do then maybe its a good idea to level with her so that she can have a chance in being with someone who does want to be with her. If this is not the case then i would sit down with her and make a plan that say one night a week or every other week is your set day with "the boys" and thats it once you've had your night then its done til the next week. If you both agree to this and follow thru you stand a good chance of not wrecking what might have been a lasting ,loving , trust filled relationship.Good luck
2006-12-07 05:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by sparklin_aries_4167 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you not like spending time with your wife...why are you with your boys all of the time...and WHAT are you doing with them until 3 in the morning.
Sounds like you do not like to be home with your wife...and that is not cool.
As a married person, you need to be spending more time cultivating the relationship you and your wife have, building a life with her, and learning about her.
I wonder why you would not be over hanging out until 3am...when you have a wife, who you obviously found beautiful, interesting, and fun enough to marry...at home, by herself.
You might want to take a look at yourself...because while you are out with the boys...she might decide not to be at home alone anymore...and it will only be your fault.
2006-12-07 05:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Karyn M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess that depends. Do you want the marriage to last? If so you might want to start spending time with her. Don't ditch your friends, but wither find a way to balance the time or come up with activities that all of you can be included in.... time to hang with the boys is appropriate as long as it's not a constant thing that takes away from the relationship
2006-12-07 05:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by masterjennjenn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How often do you do this? If it's occasionally, it's OK, but the hour you come home is not Kosher, 3am.
A little happy hour or a poker game with the boys would be a compromise, if you got home at a reasonable hour, say 11sh and did this maybe twice a month at tops.
Marriage is a partnership and must be respected, meaning you must respect her wishes because she comes first or you come last and the marriage is over.
Think about it!
2006-12-07 05:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Hedicat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well especially if you hang out with your friends there until 3 in the morning. She has to be up @ 4 so she needs some quiet time to sleep! It might be ok to let them come over when she isn't tired or doesn't have to work the next day.
2006-12-07 05:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spending more time with friends than with your spouse is inappropriate. If you wanted to hang out with the guys all the time, why did you get married in the first place. Your wife should be your fist priority in all aspects of your life, not your buddies, and I don't blame your wife for being upset.
2006-12-07 05:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Staying out till 3 am is not cool!
You're married, bubba.
This isn't the frat house,
this isn't the neighborhood, it's Marriage.
Put a little effort into being married, or you won't be for long.
Hanging with the boys wasn't mentioned in the wedding vows.
2006-12-07 05:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You wife is not cool with you hanging out all night and not spending any time with her. Is that so hard to believe that she would have a problem with that? If you do this more than half of the week, it is a problem.
2006-12-07 05:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that hanging out with the boys is fine, as long as its done in moderation. Remember, you married your wife because you love her. You need to make sure that she feels loved, so that when you do go out with your friends, she won't get upset. Make sure that you are allotting time for your wife as well as your friends.
2006-12-07 05:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋