Husband will talk about other women during intimate moments?

Question

My husband will talk about other women during our initimate times. I wonder if he is comparing me to these women during sex. Or he'll say something like, "You know i can't say no to your butt. Oh did you know Beyonce is 26?" Not 20 seconds after sex. It really ruins the moment, and cheapens the compliments he gives me. Especially when I know my butt had nothing to do with it, it was more like I brought to his attention that it had been a few days since our last "moment". Is his mind wandering during sex?

Answer 1

Geez man - good sex NEVER involves comparing or wondering "hmm i wonder if this is what Beyonce's cooch feels like." Man that is just downright rude.

First of all, tell him when he makes comparisons or talks about other women before during or after sex it makes you not want to have sex with him. Bring to his attention you don't compare him to other men either ones you've been with or Brad Pitt or whoever. Because like you said it cheapens the moment. Plus his dick isn't as big and his skills need work. -zing-

You can also try the time-tested classic:

Him: "Honey can you make me a sandwich?"

You: "Ask Beyonce to make you a f*cking sandwich, idiot! You always talk about her when we're screwing! "

Works great to get his attention.

Answer 2

Ouch. Man does that hurt the ego. And not only disrespectful. But unless this is new behavior he may not have meant anything by it. It may even had been a way of giving you a compliment. I know that sounds weird.
When my second husband of almost 6 years and I split. I was a little nervous about getting into another relationship. I started to date this really great guy. Our third time of being intimate. He opens my shirt up and says. "I've been with big breasted women before." I jokingly pulled my shirt together and just looked at him. Since I wasn't big breasted. I didn't know what to say. When I said "Thanks." He said "No, no I meant most women I have been with had big breast. I like yours the way they are." I wasn't offended in the first place because I am by no means flat chested. But what he said did make more sense. Sort of.
At some time or another both sexes minds wander and have fantasies. It doesn't really sound as though that's what he's doing. Maybe a few well placed remarks about "The Rock" or some other hot-tie actor would get his attention. Good luck

Answer 3

he is just an ***. who knows what is going on in his mind. Men do tend to think about sex differently than women. Most men are into getting off, while women for the most part are into the connection. When you look at sex as getting off who you are with and what you are thinking don't have to always match. He could be with you physically but in his head he is up on beyonce's 26 yr old butt while Madonna is massaging his left nut.

The question becomes what does that mean to you and how do you deal with it? Is it good enough that he is faithful, or does he need to be mentally faithful too?

Guys see girls and think about being with them, the thinking about it is normal it is how they are wired - but if he is just boning with his brain and coming home to you i would suggest finding a way to deal with it that works for both of you. Play some Beyonce in the background and get busy.....

Answer 4

Well, likely his mind is wandering. I have a similar problem at times with my girlfriend. Truthfully, after you have had sex with the same person so many times, the mystery is taken out of it. My most intimate moments were the first times I was with certain girls.

The best you can do is try to add to some mystery in your own relationship, but seeing as the statistics are against you...

Answer 5

I have heard of men and women thinking about other people during intimate moments, but talking, that's too much. You need to tell him how you feel about his chatting during and after intercourse. Let him know you want to be wowed and not someone who he may never have a chance in life to be with.

Answer 6

He has some real deep things going on in him that he needs to bring out. Do you have kids? Some man do that so it can encourage their wives to take care of themselves. Have you let your self go. Sometimes when we get married we think that oh he will never leave and we just don't take care of our selves thinking oh he'll love me any way, men are open to what they see and women to what they hear. If you are taking care of your self, then something is wrong with him. Love yourself so when he say things to you, it doesn't make you feel so bad.

Answer 7

Don't get upset when I tell you this, but men are normally thinking of other girls when they are having sex with you. That's just the way that their mind functions. However, I do feel your pain. My husband sometimes does this, without realizing that he is hurting my feelings. I think you should just tell him that comments like that hurt your feeling and make you feel inadequate. Hopefully, he will understand and shape up. Good luck.

Answer 8

Well, he's a big jerkwad now isn't he? Well, here's a below-the-belt hit for him. God I could never do this, but I don't have to lol. I think this will cure the problem. Pick something he does to you sexually a lot. When he's doing it, stop him and tell him that your ex boyfriend did it like "this" and tell him. He's a jerk and he needs to be treated like one.

Answer 9

I think it is normal for both to wonder off during sex, but you don't have to be obvious about it.

Answer 10

Talk to him about the offense. He might not even be aware that his minds wonders like that. It sure doesn't help your confidence in yourself or in him.