I am 30 and I can't help it but I always fall for the attractive men that are not good for me. I have a daughter that is 7 and I guess that I want a man to love the both of us so am I being too picky? Like for instance, I just went out on a first date with a very nice guy and I didn't like him because he had some bad teeth. Another guy that I went on a date with had a stuttering problem, my x boyfriend who I thought that I loved ended up facing 4 felony charges for credit card fraud so I then left him. I am a gemini so I am sapposed to be abel to adapt easily and I hate hurting people's feelings. Is it possible to find a man who I would be attracted to or, or maybe I will be alone for a long time because I set my standards too high. I just want me and my daughter to be happy.
2006-12-07 05:24:04 · 16 answers · asked by Tammy 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
Because your a women! lol! I do the same thing!
2006-12-07 05:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by irish20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to take stock of what characteristics you were attracted to in the men you have been dating. Here are some questions you may consider asking yourself. I hope you find the right guy for you and your daughter!
Are you choosing them more on physical characteristics, or personality? Yes, it sounds trite, but I've seen a number of women trying to stay in relationships with handsome jerks.
Do you look at how they treat others? How does the guy treat the wait staff in the restaurant where you had dinner? Does he bark orders at them, or is he pleasant and understanding? Does he leave the person a good tip? Does he open doors for not just you, but for others (elderly, children, etc.)? Is his language appropriate to the setting? Does he have a foul mouth even when around children? Is he trying to improve himself, even if he's already successful? What kind of goals does he have? Is he supportive of you and your goals? Does he want you to be everything you want to be and more, or does he want you to remain in his shadow? How does he treat his family, particularly his parents? Where did you meet him? A bar, or a bookstore? A club, or Home Depot? Are his eyes always roving around the room, or does he only have eyes for you? Does he make you feel like you're the only person in the room with him?
Does he pride himself on being a bad boy, or can he live without being the center of attention and even be considered average or a bit boring? Does he always talk about himself and what's important to him, or does he ask you how your day has been, and actually listens?
Does he jump at the chance to do things with you AND your daughter, or only when you and he can be alone? Would he rather watch the game on TV, or go to a park with you and your daughter?
Is he the jealous type, or is he secure in who he is and knows that if he builds a good relationship, then he doesn't have to worry about you looking for someone else? Does he get drunk? If he does, what kind of drunk is he? Angry? Happy? Sad? How often does he drink? If he smokes, is he considerate about it, and smokes outside (particularly away from your daughter)?
2006-12-07 05:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by tampasmiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with liking attractive men twin,or having high standards for yourself and your kid. The problem is, you are throwing away the characters and qualities that come with the good ones over a few minor physical flaws. At your age(which is still young in Gemini years), you should be more grounded and less superficial. We generally like people and are pretty fair. We can see beyond a persons' looks. Remember:beauty is only skin deep. I have been blessed enough to have looks and good men, but that's because I command respect. Don't settle but don't be too biased either.
2006-12-07 05:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by wildblackflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm with you. If there's a effective one accessible, he's hiding. they're all effective before each and every thing. then you get connected to them, and they imagine that they own you. the in common words vast difference is that a number of them are worse than others. i'm courting a guy now it really isn't any longer very alluring. i did not care because he dealt with me effective--it extremely is till eventually he idea i quite cared about him. Then he begins appearing as if he's doing me a opt for by seeing me. nicely, wager what. i'm no longer going to put up with the smug act. both he explains the moves, or he received't be seeing me back. I only idea that he can be a effective replace from the best searching a##holes that I oftentimes date!!! I see now that you do not should be good searching to be an a##hollow!!!
2016-11-24 21:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you reveal I don't think you are being TOO picky. I understand your goals for your daughter and you.
I can understand your aversion to bad breadth but if that is the only negative perhaps a simple or straight forward hint/suggestion of health or dental care may solve that.
However, in my book a person with a speech problem and most everything else was a plus and willing to commit, I could easily live with that.
I suggest to try and be patient with yourself, really evaluate your priorities and place them in proper order.
Good Luck.
2006-12-07 05:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by GERALD S. MCSEE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way but if you dont look and try the oppisite of what you like not meaning a woman meaning what you go for in a man true love is hard to find but i say dont give up and dont look maybe it will come to you gl if you find one hook a sista up with his brother lol but make sure whoever you get with accepts your child and be careful for there are some who will get with you to do harmful things to your child behind your back do background checks trust me its worhth it gl
2006-12-07 05:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a lot of women are like you and I'd like to know why as well! As for you, I think your just being too picky. At 30 I'd think you'd grow out of those little Seinfeld type of problems.
2006-12-07 05:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Billy K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone knows that it takes a jerk to be in love with another jerk. I suggest that you go deeper into the disenchanted forest and try to develope relationships with all the bad-looking trees until you find that one tree your eyes desire and your body craves.
2006-12-07 06:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by romaniascott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who says a man makes u happy?? i would just think about yourself and your baby and doing whatever makes u happy n fulfilling. a man will come but he will mould into your happy life that u have just created instead of trying to fill a void in your life.
2006-12-07 05:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by loobs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find in life what you want for you and your child that's when your open to meeting someone when your not looking. once you realize that you don't really need a special someone everyone will become that special ones then you'll have to pick (won't that be funnnnn!)
2006-12-07 05:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by golden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋