And I have been wondering if he has ever slept with her. For a while, he would start exercising a lot before I found out. And he would not sleep with me because he said that he did not want to confuse me because he was previously talking about getting a divorce from me. He would have on new clothes that I have never seen before that he said his friends gave him. He would also pay attention to his appearance more. Well, I found out and approached him. He admitted to it, but said they did not get physical and that he was never around even though she lives in town. We would have intercouse after I found out about this and I could tell that he had not had any in a long time, but something struck me weird because he (this may be gross, but I am trying to find an answer) he would want blow jobs. I have an intuition that he may have crossed the line with the girl and she did this for him. What do you guys think?
2006-12-07 05:14:41 · 19 answers · asked by rowriter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His behavior change is a bad sign, he started to work out and taking a little more interest in his apperance.....it's primping. I think is a part of the dating thing....he wants to look his best for the new thing.
I find your statement about the new clothes interesting. You have never seen this new you and he claims his 'friends' gave them to him. That is just way too weird. Males just don't buy other males new clothes, I think we can rule out his males friends doing that. His female friends buying him clothes, strange too. Yeah, maybe a Tshirt or something maybe. Now, a girlfriend buying her man clothes, I can see that one. Afterall, girlsfriend want their man to look nice.
He admitted it but claims they never got physical and he was never around her. Another strange statement. If he was never around her the statement of not being physical would not be needed. Right? It's impossible to get physical from a distance.
Now for the BJ. I don't know how to put this one. If this wasn't a normal part of your relationship in the past.....now all of a sudden it is the request. Maybe he now considers that a normal part of his diet? Kinda like if you always ate hamburgers then you had some lobster. Would you want lobster all the time or at least ask for it?? You should ask him who is better....see if he slips ups.
I think you know what is going on. Go with your gut feelings....they are always right.
2006-12-07 05:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by lolasmom19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old fashion way is you'd meet someone, have an attraction to and get to know them as a person. The Internet has open up a whole new world. You talk to people on line. Get to know them as a person, then meet and figure out if there is still a physical attraction. Getting people together that under normal situations would probably never meet.
A lot of the warning signs are there. Lack of sexual activity, new appearance, meeting this women. These are some of the signs I would ask you if you had some doubt whether your man was cheating or not.
First always trusts your intuition. Get more facts so when you present your doubts to him you know what's going on. This will also help you in letting go. He crossed the line by meeting this girl behind your back. You have only his word nothing happened. Yet his word may not hold much water because he went to meet her in the first place. Ask him why he hid it? And how he'd react if the shoe had been on the other foot. Good luck
2006-12-07 05:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound good. I'm a guy going through a similar situation as we speak. A guy is flirting with my wife online. I have my ways of knowing. I am in Iraq and it's easy for my wife to chat with him. He makes comments to her that should not be made. I'm just keeping notes and keeping an eye on the situation.
Your situation is a lot worse. He has admitted it to you. He say's they haven't been physical? They talk "inappropriately" online. I take it this means they are having short of cyber sex? She lives in town? I'm not a scumbag but if I was I think I would have done something if I had the chance. I believe he has done something. Guys like yours are scum when it comes to this. They are weak and will take advantage of every girl that attracts them in this way. If I were you, as hard as it seems, start to make some plans without him because it's heading that way. Once a cheater always a cheater. Don't put yourself through this. Put your foot down and don't take it. Do what you have to do. It's inevitable.....
Good luck. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-07 05:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by dougstain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is talking on the net that way, even if he has not met her.. ya right.. he has the mindset to do so. .I am speaking from my own past history and it really screwed my life up for several years. I had to prove myself all over again and it was not easy at all. Have a serious talk and give him a way to tell you what has happened and that maybe it would be best to just go your separate ways..
2006-12-07 05:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by gotseatbelts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have nothing to worry about.. I feel he is doing all these things to get your attention... and him tryin new sex things is a way to show you what he likes... Maybe he changed his mind about the divorce and wants to make things work.. Give your husband a chance.... because it sounds like he really is tryin to help the marriage situation out. Good Luck and Hope this helps
2006-12-07 05:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,go see a lawyer for a divorce and a doctor for testing who knows how long this guy may have been cheating
2006-12-07 05:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by simplydelicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional affairs are more damaging then sexual affairs so whether or not he had any kind of sex with her is immaterial. If he wants this marriage to work then he needs to end the affair totally and earn back your trust by being totally honest with you. Secrets have been kept here and that is the crux of the problem.
2006-12-07 05:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by whitneysmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are all signs of cheating. I would either be straight with him and ask about it or just kick him to the curb, because you definitely don't deserve that. Find someone who will treat you like a princess. Wish you best of luck.
2006-12-07 05:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by nothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 00:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. Most men don't see a blo* job as sex. Even though it most definitely is. If he never requested them before, but does now, I believe what you do.
Listen to your intuition, it is usually right on target.
2006-12-07 05:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋