My parents and I got into a big fight about college.....?

Question

Im supposed to be a senior but it look like I have about a year left. My parents have always said they would pay for school. But im under so much pressure all the time. They make me miserable because its always, so when are you done, take as many hours as possible, hurry hurry hurry! And I cant take it. Ive dropped alot of classes and changed my major a few times because honestly I dont know what the hell I am doing. But its my life. Im the one in college. And its wonderful that they pay but Id rather them not pay and leave me alone than be miserable and always be under so much pressure. They tell me im throwing their money away, I have 100 hours, how is that throwing away anything? I want to work at my own pace. But they wont let me do that, and they wont co-sign so I can take out loans for myself. And thats the only way to get student loans is to have a co-signer. And I dont have anyone to do that for me. What do I do?

Answer 1

You should be happy your parents are willing to pay for college. Frankly, they are correct, you should appreciate what they are doing for you.

Most college students go through periods of uncertainty. You are being asked to decide what you want to do for the rest of your lives, when you are not perhaps ready to make that decision. Also, college is the first time you are 100% responsible for your actions. It is a lot of responsibility to deal with when you are 20, but it is also part of life.

If you have 100 hours, you are too close not to finish. Even if you are not certain college is doing you any good, it is. People will treat you with a lot more respect if you have a college degree and getting a decent job will be much easier.

However, if you are so burned out, talk to your parents about perhaps taking a semester off. Don't use that semester off just to screw around, get a job, perhaps do some traveling, get your head back into a better place. Promise your parents that will finish if you take the semester off and won't just screw around for the three months. AND, FOLLOW THROUGH ON THAT PROMISE.

On taking your last 20-30 hours. Return to school next summer and take summer classes. The classes are usually smaller and the accelerated pace makes it easier to keep motivated. You should be able to finish your degree by next Christmas.

Answer 2

Your in a tough spot, as much as I hate to say it. If they are tramatizing you way too much, try to work on finding alternate payment methods.. your education will be worthless, if theyre constantly pressuring you... do you have the stafford loan.?
I know that one is pretty much automatic....
I believe in what your saying you need to work at your own pace.
I would assume that talking about it calmly doesn't work? Can you separate them and discuss it individually so theyre not ganging up on you? If thats doubtful, try to see if there is something the finantial aid office can do for you.
Though it takes more time, I work FT and go to only 3-4 courses a semester, but I take what classes I want and finish whenever I feel like. Believe me its a relief, not making you jump up for a dollar hanging over your head all the time.
Try your best to work it out so you won't feel like you've wasted your time trying to please someone who wont really benefit the most anyway....
Good luck & hang in there.

Answer 3

It's your life as you claim. So take complete utter control of your life. I'm pretty sure on www.salliemae.com you don't need a parent to co-sign for a student loan and my brother got instant approval. Tell your parents to keep their money and you'll do college the way you want to do college.

Answer 4

You might not want to read this!
Boy are you in for a shock when you actually get into the real world.
You think your parents are hard on you regarding their money and their time line? Wait until your dealing with a Boss and a company buget with time line.
My advice is to grow up, figure out what your going to do in life and graduate already.

Answer 5

Best thing to do is figure out what you're doing, major-wise. Then outline a plan of action and show it to your folks, that way they can see what you're working towards. They'll probably be more receptive to your plans if they see you actually have plans.

Sounds like they're frustrated and concerned for you, but either not expressing themselves correctly or they're assholes. Either way, if they can afford to pay for your schooling it's worth a bit of crap from them to not have to pay student loans back.

Answer 6

Talk to your college adviser. My daughter is graduating in a couple of weeks. She has received student loans and I have never co-signed. Check into it further. There is also FAFSA, scholarships and grants out there. Talk to someone at your college! You can do it, and probably feel better about yourself if you do it on your own.

Answer 7

I worked 2 jobs and went to college at night, yes it was stressful but I did it . . I never took out a student loan but my brother did and he didn't need a cosigner.

Answer 8

that's not good to be under that much pressure. You should have a serious talk with them. Be straight with them, tell them all that you have written down. Honesty is the best policy. Sorry for your stress.

Answer 9

Once I read:" What we choose to think and say in this moment, will create the tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, the next week,, the next month and the next year, the power is in the present".
You should ask what do I have to do for ME to be happy!!!

Answer 10

sit them down and explain everything to them... tell them you are doing fine and you are passing,,,, the fact that they are pressuring you is pushing you away from school.... you are happy that they pay for it but they need to lay off a little because you can only handle so much or you will start failing.... i would finish if you only havea year....