My husband has cheated on me and has a kid with this biatch......He constantly lies to me and tells me that he doesn't love her and that he just keeps in touch because of the kid. I dont believe him!!! I call him on his cell and he says "Ok, I will call you back cause my job is calling me" Well, I go online and check his call log and find out he is talking to her. Am I wrong for checking on his calls? I am so sad and confused!! He doesn't want me to think anything bad and tells me not to be jealous.
2006-12-07 04:50:23 · 19 answers · asked by crazy_sad_songs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must hate yourself for choosing, screwing, hanging around, and giving countless second chances to such a complete loser.
2006-12-07 04:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A man is a man and he is going to lie to you if he thinks that you will get upset. If that's not the case, then you are lying to yourself and it doesn't matter if he loves you or not. He is going to be lying to you about things for as long as you're with him. With the exeption of a sudden epiphany, which would most likely only come with the loss of something very dear to him. That'd probably be you sister! If this is the only suspicious case and you do go on being with this man, then don't be afraid to do what it takes for you to be happy with the situation. On second thought, what the hell do you have to feel bad about, that ****** already cheated on you once! If he gives you any **** about checking up on him, it should already be OV! Don't forget to keep your friends close and your enemys closer. Feel no remorce! Be a ******* woman!
2006-12-07 13:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by J Brewhah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of women do go thru this even though they will not admit to it. some will and not do anything about it and they end up being the victoms of abuse. But you do not have to become a statistic. And you do not have to lower yourself to be with somebody that isnto going to love, respect and treat you the way that you deserve there are guys out there that do treat women in the best way and you have 10 fold earned and deserve to be treated right. He can not love you by doing those things and you dont have to believe that just because of your feelings for him. Right now there is someone out there that is PERFECT for you and honey this guy is not. I wish you the best and hope you find the strenght to do what you know is right.
2006-12-07 13:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the key ingredient in any relationship.
Once that bond is broken, you can never trust again
You should have moved on then.
You are a doormat for this jerk.
You have to get up the courage to leave him.
Free yourself and stop being held hostage.
Dont be a fool and play this stupid game with him any longer.
You deserve much better.
Good Luck
2006-12-07 13:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry this is happening to you. It`s so hard to keep from checking his stuff when you know he is lying to you. Im going thru something similar and I just as confused as you are and I keep checking his stuff but everything can be taken the wrong way and to the point that you dont know if it means something or not. I think you should just go with your gut instinct. It`s hard but sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do.
2006-12-07 12:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by mythoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...no!! Love is tied in with honesty and if you don't have one then you don't have the other. I don't think you are wrong, I just think you already know the answers to your questions and you are too scared to confront him. In his mind, he can tell you anything and you are going to believe him because it has already happened. You need to be strong and straight forward with him and then (depending on his reactions and answers) you need to decide what you want and how you are going to get it. Good luck and remember, you are number one and you need to look out for you!! Make yourself happy and then everything will fall into place.
2006-12-07 12:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by niedermn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is all so Innocent then why does he have to lie to you? You can forgive him for his dishonesty, but the dishonesty is still going on, you need to have a heart to heart w/ him, your instincts are telling what you already know! Seek counseling if you truly love him, if not let him go seems like he is having some issues of his own that he needs to work through and if you can not work through them together, then leave. easier said than done, but if you are not happy then change your situation.
2006-12-07 12:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person loves you they would not want to do anything to hurt you. Your husband has lost respect for you and your marriage. I always say you can tell how much your mate cares by how much time they want to spend with you. Always follow your gut, it wont lie to you. We women have been given a gift from God, and that's our instincts. So if you don't believe him, let him go. If he loves you he will work to get you back. AND MAKE HIM WORK. Or find you someone that wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them. Good Luck.......
2006-12-07 13:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does that make you feel to look up his phone records? It makes you feel kind of sick to your stomach doesn't it?
Does he love you if he hits you? NO!
Does he love you if he cheats on you? NO!
You deserve better than that. Move on and find some happiness. There are good men out that that won't treat you that way. Please don't tolerate it for another minute! He doesn't deserve your time and trouble!
2006-12-07 12:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my sympathy. Mine lies to me constantly as well. I've drawn apart from him because I can't believe anything he says and I don't trust him at all. It's a miserable existance. If you're able, leave him. Its all you CAN do. You can't make him stop lying, that's for sure.
2006-12-07 13:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my deepest sympathies. This not a genuine demonstration of love from your fool of a husband. What this shows is the only thing your husband really cares about is himself. I have to wonder if he knows he is making a complete @$$hole out of himself. THE JERK!
2006-12-07 13:19:40 · answer #11 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋