My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years now and we are having some serious problems. Does anyone out there know about any counselors that we can go to. I am afraid that we will not last much longer.
2006-12-07 04:46:33 · 9 answers · asked by amovalle28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are both open minded and willing to participate in counseling in order to try and resolve issues in your relationship then it would be wise to go and give it a try with a mediator. There are many forms of counseling available for people in your situation and they include relationship counseling, family counseling, sexual therapist etc. Both of you will have to lay all the cards on the table and not become resentful of what is said. As well what is said during these sessions must be left there and not thrown in the others face after the sessions. Best of luck and it really can help people.
2006-12-07 04:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be that your relationship IS over, and out of gas....But do both of you wish to save it? To do a little testing, relationships/marriages are Respect, Admiration, Passion, Trust, and a whole lot of lovies, time together, common interests, agreement on how to spend free time and free money, and effort to keep the spark alive. If the four item above are no longer part of your relationship, you probably have just outgrown each other.... and things do indeed wear out -- tires, cars, teeth, and yes, relationships. Counselors can only help you look at what you each want, and sort out your options, and usually they are very good at that. If you both are interested in saving your relationship, go a few times.....
2006-12-07 04:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your boyfriend and see what the both of you can do to work things out together! If that doesn't work, go see a therapist or a psychologist that deals with family and relationship issues! Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the phone book for places near you. Have a serious conversation with your boyfriend as well. Tell him how you feel about everything. If he loves you he'll understand and make things work. Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would check with your local phone book!
try doing something different together soul searching!
coping.org
they have relationship outlines and questions that may help you both!
but don't be the only one doing it! or you will grow apart!
don't force him to do it either..
Trust, communication, Passion will keep your relationship working VERY well
find out what your missing and Work on fixing it together!
my lover and i have communication issues at times! 1year for us but we never give up with working on it!
so us beingopen and not hiding information to sacerfice our feelings are not an option! I know that his intent isn't to hurt me or to make me feel bad i trust him enought to know this! so if he says something that hurt my feelings that is my problem cuz his intent was to help me not hurt me... with that being said i tend to forget about a lot of stuff because i know he means well!
but i don't go on not asking are you saing this to help or just to mess with mymind or to get me mad or are you trying to make me cry! ect.. men are logic basied females are emotional based all relationships have lots of work!
2006-12-07 04:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try this. Sit down with a note book and write down everything that makes you upset. Use words like I get mad when you do_______. I get up set when promises are not kept. And Try to avoid words like you always. You make me mad. DO NOT use words that single him out. I went to cousinly and this is what we had to do. I had to write out everything that he did that made me up set and then write everything that made me love him. He had to do the same thing. Then we had to tell each other what we wrote. Use I get mad when you do or I get up set when you have lied. Don't do You pissed me off because You didn't call me. In stead use I get pissed off when you say you are going to call and you don't. Hope this helps save your relationship.
2006-12-07 04:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by teddybear_48030 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first lady does counseling in Highland Park on Woodward and 15 Ferris. She is really good and she would really help you out but just keep your head up and do whatever it takes to save your relationship you done put to many years into this relationship.
2006-12-07 04:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some serious problems,acknowledge those,yes,and work on those together.six yr long experience means better understanding and a common comfort zone.Its easier.Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check around to those you know, ask your physician for a referral, You work insurance plan may have a referral...
Your local phone book should have some listings. ASK Questions, of who ever you decide on.
2006-12-07 04:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋