I am an older woman in her forty's. Unfortunately hook'd on my best friend a guy for five years. Sounds crazy I know. We lived together twice once for nine months and once for a year. He means everything to me. We had been intimate but he decided we should only be friends. We have a very sincere friendship he would never iontentionaly hurt me. I never have more fun than when I am with him. He has never kiss'd me he says he can't because it would mean he was serious but yet I have seen him with other women which he is all over. And beleive me they are far from attractive. Not to be conceited I know I am an attractive woman and have a great sense of humor. There is never a dull moment between us. He has a girlfriend now I don't see him much. They been together three months she acts very insecure around me he always brings up our old times together and they have been having problems. I know there sex life is good cuz he told me like I said were good friends. Should I feel ugly
2006-12-07 04:31:45 · 8 answers · asked by pookiepoo11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why should you feel ugly? I am sure it has nothing to do with looks. It doesn't have to be anyone's fault...especially yours! Buck up lady, move on. Find someone that deserves you.
2006-12-07 04:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way. I am sure that it's not your outward appearance. However, I think that you need to realize that he obviously doesn't feel the same emotions that you do. He sees you as his good friend. You can't force him to feel something he doesn't. I hope more than anything, you will be able to put more focus on yourself and your interests. Don't pine for him romantically. Use that passion to better yourself as a whole. Is it possible that you are missing out on other men's attentions because you want him? I also think that he needs to show you a little more respect. If you are such good friends, then he would know how you feel, and wouldn't keep putting you in these positions. There are some aspects that friends of the opposite sex should NOT discuss in conversations about their lovers. How rude and inconsiderate.
2006-12-07 12:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by bnsheerose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he obviously values your friendship. Even tho you have feelings for him, it sounds like he doesn't feel the same way. I could be wrong, just going on what you've said. Just cos he can't see how wonderful you are, doesn't mean you should feel ugly. Some day soon a guy who's worthy of you will come along, so take heart and keep smiling.
2006-12-07 12:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's best to just remain friends and friends only because there's too much you know about each other and maybe that won't ever work out in the end. Better to have a great friendship then to get involved then have a nasty breakup.
2006-12-07 12:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't feel ugly. I think that it is strange that the two of you haven't hooked up yet. I think that maybe when he sees you getting serious with another man and you don't have time for him his sight of you will change completely.
He'll try and tell you that the guy is not good enough and stuff and it will all be because he wants no one else to be with you.
2006-12-07 12:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't feel unattractive or ugly at all...
I bet you are a stunner... Maybe there is just something going on in his head about spoiling a good friendship... If you need sex, find someone else, and get on with it...
2006-12-07 12:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should feel great because you have a good friend even though you sound vain.i wouldnt get to in love with him because he is with somebody else.you should feel weird when he talks about his sex life to you
2006-12-07 12:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by marissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope just not for him or him for you. Move on.
2006-12-07 12:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋