my husband is going out of town today and he asked me this morning to get the kids ready and all of us go together. well it is my birthday tommorow and i already have plans with my friend who is coming in from out of town to see me. so i said no. he then gets so angry with me. calling me all kinds of names. well i told him fine i would cancel the plans i made for 2 weeks to go even tho i know it will not be good. he refused and left. come to find out he asked everyone at his work to go but they couldnt. so i feel like the last choice. should i be feeling guilty for not wanting to go? why would someone get so upset just because i already made other plans?
2006-12-07 04:28:30 · 9 answers · asked by kim 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I hate to hear about the name calling, not a good sign. However, ask him to give you a little more notice next time and you will be happy to go.
Talk to him about the name calling and the disappointment on both sides, try to get him to a marriage counselor. There are a lot of things you didn't say and the marriage counselor will probably find it all out and make suggestions for BOTH of you. Good luck.
2006-12-07 04:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by plezurgui 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would run, not walk, run to a marriage counselor. You two are quickly heading to major problems in your marriage. When I first started reading your question, I felt that you were very wrong and should have gone with your husband and children, even if you had a friend coming. Then I read that you were your husbands last choice in asking you to go with him. Did you husband know that you had made plans with a friend 2 weeks ago for your birthday? If he did, why would he ask you to go when he knew your friend was coming. Sounds to me like he was looking for a fight or argument. I hope you both go get some counseling, you are heading for divorce court.
2006-12-07 12:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just pretty upset that noone wants to go with him, you know? I would be sort of down on myself if I asked everyone at my work to go and they all said no.
You were probably the last choice because he knew that you maybe wouldn't want to go.
I say you should have went with him. He just didn't want to go alone, and he's probably very upset that even his wife doesn't want to go... Maybe he's going through a hard time or something in his mind, you never know.
I think you should call him and at least talk to him.
2006-12-07 12:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by jeff_is_sexy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is selfish. Stay at home and meet your friend for your birthday. Sounds like there are many issues in your marriage. One of them is a lack of intimacy between you and your husband.
2006-12-07 12:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big problem- your birthday, him, your friends. Odd that he didn't seem to remember, odd that you choose your friends over him. I don't want to add to a problem, but I think you need to stop and notice each other...
2006-12-07 12:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by boots&hank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the answer to that but I think the key thing here is communication....or lack of.
2006-12-07 12:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a larger problem. Name calling? Wow.
2006-12-07 12:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you will find a solution...but, your husband wants to go somwhere...your friends i hope won't get mad...don't you think?
2006-12-07 12:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by invisible1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what to do
2006-12-07 12:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋