I've seen him on a website that advertised dating for attached adults. He's 42 and seems to have lost all interest. I'm 33 and ready to rumble!! But this is really wrecking all my self-confidence, and I find myself doubting everything he tells me about where he goes and what he does. Has anyone ever saved a relationship that went through this? I do not want to suffer years of heartache for nothing.
2006-12-07 04:24:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it is that much work to have him around, that should tell you something! You need to kick him to the curb and find a new one. Especially if you are starting to doubt yourself. You don't need that negative crap, find a man that wants and deserves you, stop wasting your time. Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monogamy isn't my thing either. It took a lot of guts to be up front about it while dating but I did finally meet a woman with the same views as I have and we have a very strong and loving open marriage. I don't know if the two of you are the type of personalities that could handle a swinging lifestyle, but if you aren't than you need to know that the feelings your husband is having are not going to go away with time and it will eventually drive a wedge between you.
So your options are either an open marriage or a different marriage. Sorry to put it that way but sometimes the giving in a relationship can truly be an exhausting learning experience
2006-12-07 04:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monogomy should be in any relationship unless both partners agree to be swingers or whatever their lifestyle. This obviously is not sitting well with you. I would honestly suggest you leave this guy. He needs some growing up to do which is sad considering he is 42. I can understand this affecting your self-confidence and if you recognize that already then you know what you need to do - end this relationship and find a guy who wants you and ONLY you! Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your choice of whether you believe you should wait for someone who has lost all appreciation for how well you've treated him throughout your relationship.
Waiting isn't a fun game and you may be waiting for years for the true heartache to kick in. Personally I wouldn't wait through my partner's attempts to find something better and come to me as a last resort should he be unable to.
You're young and have a life to lead. If he truly values you then he'll find you when he realises what he's lost. Then the power will be in your hands as to how much you want him in your life.
2006-12-07 04:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people simply cannot commit. They are constantly searching for the Perfect Person - the one they believe will fill the void in their lives and themselves. This will never happen, but they go one - from one to the next - always searching for what doesn't exist outside of themselves.
Let him go. This will only consume your time and affections when you, yourself, could be out looking for someone who is ready to really share your life.
2006-12-07 04:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is unwilling to be monogamous inform him you are out. 33 is still young and there are lots of guys out there who feel women at your age are sexy and would not be so promiscuous. I've been married for 10 yrs and in my opinion the sex has gotten better somehow!
2006-12-07 04:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Little anionyx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, my answer is no. It sounds like he is looking for variety. Maybe you should ask him point blank and find out where you really stand in this relationship.
2006-12-07 04:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him. if he doesn't want to be with you and only you then find someone else. there are plenty of guys out there that are willing to be monogomous. he's getting old anyways. just put his pecker to rest and go find a new, better and younger one!! Good luck!!
2006-12-07 04:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by loveable_1_4u2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doubting that much and he seems to have lost interest, then move on.
2006-12-07 04:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want heartache' i suggest you move on and let him live the single life the he want to
2006-12-07 04:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋