My sister got engaged over Thanksgiving break to this guy.... He is a really nice guy and I think he really loves my sister. The problem is that he is 25 and he has a part time job, he is still in school (7 years now) and doesn't have a degree or close to one. I just dont know how he is going to support my sister. I want her to be happy but I do want someone to be man enough to try and take care of her. Should I say something to her? Or just stay out of it?
2006-12-07 04:20:34 · 27 answers · asked by Ms. Fantastic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good Question,
My dear friend! She is your sister after all. Blood is thicker than water as you know, yet love endures all and sees no wrong, (atleast in the beginning stages) Try talking to her gently,,,,,,,, She will respect you for thinking of her, but don`t be hurt if she rejects your concerns. To many of us have been forewarned in advance but JUST HAD TO LEARN THE HARD WAY!!! I admire you for being there for her.
Pray for her over and over, remember (The Prayer of a Righteous Person Availeth Much).
Hugs and God`s Speed to you,
Jim
2006-12-07 04:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
STAY OUT OF IT or it will eventually backfire in your face.
Put the shoe on the other foot. How would you feel if you had found the guy of your dreams and your sister felt that for your own good she should put doubts and concern in your head because that's all you're going to do to her. The biggest mistake you can make is to get involved in another family member's affairs. Besides, who died and left you in charge of the family thinking job!
2006-12-07 04:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well as you have seen from most of the replies it would be best to stay out of your sisters business. She's a big girl and is quite capable of taking care of herself. Sometimes in life the way we learn things is by experiencing them so let her have this experience sweets. Your a good sister to care for her however, you have to leave her alone.
2006-12-07 04:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tina S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay out of it, don't get in between it. as long as he makes your sister happy that what counts. If they truly love each other he will make it work. if it don't just be there for your sister. showing her that you support her for what she decides is enough. and she will appriciate that. Your sister is a big girl and everyone has to learn by there mistakes. and no one can say or do anything but be there for that person. but its nice to have a sister who cares.
2006-12-07 04:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this were my sister I would definitely be bringing it up as we are close. So maybe try mentioning it to her but letting her know that you are just concerned about her. Maybe she knows things that you don't seem to see. That he is motivated and is really striving for a degree that he loves and will end up with a job that he loves and be able to support a family with.
2006-12-07 04:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by M&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is already engaged and I guess is very in love...What good would make your saying? What is your goal? He wouldn't get his education or great job immediately after your words, so do you want her to brake up with him?
Everything you wrote she already knew, so what the point to tell her all of that? Did she ask your advise to be or not to be with him?
I think it's very clear: stay out of it.
2006-12-07 04:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that your sister knows all this things too, if she said YES, thenm she knows what sh eis doing ...HOw old is she?? Old enougth to make her own choices??? Then let her be and she migth be happy the way she is maybe later on he will become a professional and will have enough $$$ to support your sis and their familly, just support her on her decitions she is happy this way don't ruin her plans !!!!! BE A GOOD SIS !!!
2006-12-07 04:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly wouldn't say anything to her as she will not doubt become defensive and this will cause a rift between you and her. I can tell how much you love her and that is very sweet but you can't say anything like that. If it was really a worry I am sure your parents would discuss it with her. You need to support her and her fiance and just pray that he will be able to support yoru sister!
2006-12-07 04:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to just stay out of it. She is old enough to make her own decisions, and if she loves him and he loves her, they will work hard to make it work. My father was in college when he married my mother, and my mother had to support the family for a while until he was finished. Now he owns his own business. If they are dedicated to each other and what they believe in, they will survive.
2006-12-07 04:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by quatrapiller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would addres it in front of them both. Ask him about school, why so long without a degree? What degree is he aiming for? What does he want out of life... Heck- as him how he's gonna provide for your sister. But keep it casual, so they won't feel that you are confronting him. Just being "curious." Don't let on that you are worried about her or she will get defensive and you will lose her for a while. Just wish for the best and hope they figure it out on their own...
2006-12-07 04:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋