i was with this guy for two years and he put alot of pressure to marry him and i put him through alot (on agian off again) an di did somehting really stupid and cheated on him and then broke up eith him because i couldnt stand the guilt but we still talk and are still friends and he still wants to get back together and still asks why we broke up and i want to teel him everyday the real reason but im not sure if i can hurt him anymore..,what should i do?
2006-12-07 04:18:27 · 15 answers · asked by cubana 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You know honesty is the best policy most of the time. I would just tell him that you like him as a friend. Dont tell him you cheated on him.
2006-12-07 04:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by manicantputmyname 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The guy didn't have any "papers" on you lol. You WERE a free agent. Besides which, you didn't really have any "nesting" urges at the time, which is why you were not ready to commit. In these circumstances, there is absolutely no reason why you should "unload your guilt" on to him. It will NOT make you feel any better, it MIGHT make him feel worse, and I guarantee that the first time the two of you have a spat about something, you'll have it hurled at you. Keep the information to yourself, and let it pass into history, where it belongs.
2006-12-07 04:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guilt will go away when you tell her...
but when i was in something similar to this
he told me I owed him alot since I cheated on him..he didn't do anything nice or anything and I had to do everything, treat him everytime we went out cause if i didn't pay he would just pay for himself...and he made me believe I owed him something... but i couldn't take the time back and tried to say I am sorry and didn't mean to hurt him... but after like 2 months of him telling me he is not happy and i still owe him i realized hell with you and left him...... for good. Now he calls me and wants me back........!!
2006-12-07 04:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly what ever you did has nothing to do with how you feel for him insidei mean if youre not in love with than youre just not and if you were truley in love with him back then you would of never skipped off that track ..so iam sure you did what you did because you werent ready for that and you got scared so you ended up doing the wrong thing ..but next time you want to do something with some one else leave that person first ...then go be with some one else its less pain full that way ..if you feel that you need to tell him this why now..you know just let him know you cant go backwards only foward but it wouldnt be good for both of you to go through a relationship that just didnt work out to begin with but that you love him as friend and dont want to lose that .and if he cant except that then their cant be nothing at alll..
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2006-12-07 04:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by lillyjenn22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be his girlfriend again?
Do you just want to be his friend?
Anyway being truthful is very important in a relationship. Think about the future if you don't tell him now and some time in you future you tell someone you didn't tell him the truth you come acrossed as untrustworthy.
As for hurting him you have already done that now you have to deal with it.
2006-12-07 04:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, you obviously did it for a reason, you broke up with him. The only thing that would make a relationship better is telling him why. He at least deserves that.
2006-12-07 04:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by valerie s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell why u guys broke up then tell him that u are sorry and if doesn't want to go out anymore its understandable
2006-12-07 06:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to be leading him on like your doing. You need to tell him everything. He has the right to know while you cheated on him and don't want to marry him.
2006-12-07 06:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooner or later he's going to find out from someone, wheather you tell him or not, what then? if he brings up the subject again come clean about it, it'll lessen your guilt, if you gets pass this stage, your realationship will be stronger, if he leave you you'll have a closure
2006-12-07 04:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Dreamweaver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and then stop talking to him. he pressured you, made you want to cheat, you chating was wrong but you are better off with out him!
2006-12-07 05:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by soccer2music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋