where I live, what do I do if they find out how sad my life really is?I am at Uni and people will think I am a major loser.
2006-12-07 04:13:26 · 12 answers · asked by nachomanhulk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are not a total loser. Loads of people find it hard to make new friends when they start uni. There are so many clubs and socities at uni that there must be one that interests you. go join it, make friends, problem solved.
next time your classmates ask you, tell them you had a boring w/end and are after some ideas on waht to do, maybe they will invite you along with them next time. good luck xx
2006-12-07 04:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by the dougal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a mature student at uni and stop worrying about it. If they ask what you were doing at the weekend just say you were swotting up and getting ready for exams/essays (which you need to do to pass). Now to address the problem itself! There is no reason to not have friends at uni. There are societies that run events most nites at uni, they have meetings, social events...just plain old get pissed pub runs. You will meet people at them trust me. If you dont think you'll fit in, think again as some of the people you will meet will be different others will conform. But either way you will make friends.
Then you can get on and enjoy uni life, and you want to cos you only do it once!!!
PS and good luck cos its not as easy as people think at uni!!
2006-12-07 04:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by xray_daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you're a loser at all. sometimes it's hard making friends, whatever your situation. sometimes it's not your fault at all, it's because people don't take the time to know you. i kind of feel that way. im at school and i have friends but in the town where i go to school theres nothing to do except this place where everyone goes to get drunk. but my friends and i arent into that sort of thing as were underaged, and sometimes i feel like a pathetic loser when im at home on a weekend. it really gets me down. listen to the suggestions on here about joining clubs and stuff, and i liked that one about just going to a pub and getting drunk! youll probably talk to anyone and meet lots of people, and if you dont remember it the next day-doesnt matter coz at least you can say you did something at the weekend! Good luck!
2006-12-07 06:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same position you are. First semester at school. I just got into a research lab and I also joined a club. It really does help. Also try to find an on campus job to fill up your time on the weekends. You might be able to get work study as I know a lot of ppl here at school do so make sure you look into it. Good Luck ;-)
2006-12-07 04:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by M&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldnt worry too much about what people will think of you. IF they do start to think that, ignore them. They aint doing nothing for you, you dont need them in your life. If you ask me, you got it made. The richest man in the world didnt go out from the age of 18 until mid 30's, so what would you rather want, a heep loads of "friends" who cause you trouble when you least expect it, or a multimillionaire by the time your 30 with an agenda most people would dream of. Friends get boring, disrespectful, predictable, and darn right rude when the fancy takes them. /they are a hassle that you are free off. Dont dwell on what you dont have, cause as soon as you get it, its not worth the thing you sh!t on. TRUST me. I think you should concentrate on where and what you want out of life. Goodluck and takecare. xx sam xx
2006-12-07 04:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are no loser mate, you are the man. Remember, when you have left uni all the people you thought were friends will be gone and you will be the smartest kid on the block.
Head down and live long fella.
2006-12-07 04:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by ROBSTER 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only real losers are the ones who look at others that way. Live your own life my friend, don't allow how others think of you dissuade your goals or personal image. You should only be self conscious if you are insecure with yourself. Then it's up to you not others to change that.
2006-12-07 04:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by Tom H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not think of something you would like to do and then invite people along?
You'll probably find that you are not alone in feeling lonely and now is the perfect time for an excuse for doing something - it being Christmas and everything.
2006-12-07 05:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find real friends in time. Till then be yourself and explore hobbies of your interest. Many people go through what you now experience. You are not alone.
NOBODY HERE IS A LOSER.
2006-12-07 04:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by I'm Sparticus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make something up - if you've no friends then nobody will know any better!
Even better, join a club at uni and make some new mates!
2006-12-07 04:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋