Ive known this guy since we were 7. then we went different ways and now r friends again. (im bi btw). but we started chillin alot now and hes always does little stuff to make me feel like this. like when we were sittin down by the creek late one night, he put his head on my shoulders and put his arm around me. and he always trys to lay right beside me. but only when its just me and him. if someone else is with us and i like use his legs as a foot rest hes like aw. my legs are cramping. but if its just me and him well sit like that all night. he always wants to chill with me. and is always askin if he can come over. and whenever we go to my room "he falls asleep" and turns over and slings his arm around me and scoots over and get real close to me.(I know he wasnt asleep cuz i saw him lookin around.) Please help yall! I really like him. but I dont know wat to do?!
2006-12-07 04:13:19 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just ask him. Honesty and open conversation are your best bet.
2006-12-07 04:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Linny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is gay sweetie don't worry. I suggest you both go out to eat and then for a nice long brisk walk in the park ..sit on a bench and just ask him. I don't think you will send him running trust me. I think he will be so happy to hear that you are interested in him and that you like him and accept him. Then you can both be together! The holidays are coming up and you will have so much fun! Good luck..who knows maybe one day you will get married! I support gay marriage all the way!
2006-12-07 04:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, He obviously has gay tendancies but is shy around others because of insecurities. He may not be ready to tell the world, if you know what I mean. He may aslo be unsure or just Bi like yourself.
Some people don't know what they want until they have lost there chance to find out. I think you should make a move, subtle of course.
2006-12-07 04:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never known a straight man comfortable enough with his sexuality to have a more physical relationship with his male friends. Chances are, your friend is very confused with his sexuality, but intrigued enough to take it to the next step while with you. However, he is protecting that curiosity by not openly showing his affection for you while around other friends.
Your friend is gay. Believe me on this one. But be careful on how you aproach the subject with him, because chances are that he's been struggling with this for a while, and isn't quite comfortable with it yet. He is afraid to come fully out of the closet for what could be a million reasons. Social acceptance, parents disapproval, etc...but you can certainly help him along the way.
2006-12-07 04:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lost In Vast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey look i no this person is a good friend but just go up and seriously ask him - are u gay?. what will be the outcome he will either say yes and u will stop hanging around with him or he ll say no and u will say all that you have written about. may be he ll get angry and wont ans you but it will probaply be for the best. If he is not a gay then he basically should ans u a yes or no then its up to u. to b a friend or be his partner.
2006-12-07 04:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! Seriously... straight guys don't put their head on another guy's shoulders and put their arm around the guy. I think he is trying to tell you that he is gay without actually saying the words. If you feel strongly about it, take a chance.
2006-12-07 04:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is at least bi if not gay, but he also seems to want to keep it as part of his private life. Even straight people feel uncomfortable with public displays of effection. If you want to have a relationship with him you are going to have to respect his desire for privacy because if he is cornered about how he is feels he is likely to deny it all and close you completely out.
2006-12-07 04:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you even had to ask this question you know he's gay. He's doing everything you want him to do, he's just waiting on you to make the next move.
2006-12-07 05:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by 07jaggrad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him. What is the worst case scenario..... he tells you he likes girls. It won't be as bad as you think. If anything he'll admire you for your honesty. That's what gets me pure open honesty. Yeah the truth can hurt but not knowing hurts more.
2006-12-07 04:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he does something gay to you, ask him "are you gay or Bi"? that will draw an answer from him because he will have to answer you with, "I'm gay", or I'm bi", or I'm niether, and you will have your answer. I would love to know the result.
2006-12-07 06:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes just shy, but deff looking for you to pack his fudge up tight. this activity you describe is not the actions of a striait man. i could promice u that. make your move already
2006-12-07 04:16:23 · answer #11 · answered by rodie5582 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋