I have a HUGE issue to deal with. I am in love, awwwwww I know, and the woman that I love loves me and I know this. The problem is that she is married. But I know that she still loves me, should I tell her how I still feel about her? Do you think that she would leave her husband? They have only been married for a little over a year. Or am I just a day late and a dollar short?
Her and I hung out yesterday, and I now know that I cannot just be her friend, seeign her and wanting her and not being able to be with her is to painful.
So my options are to tell her, and hope that she still loves me enough to want to be with me, or just let our friendship die. Because "just being friends" just will not do it for me anymore.
2006-12-07 04:09:50 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go for it man!
2006-12-07 10:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Black a neeezzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you realize you can't be just friends, I would say that you have to tell her the truth, just so she'll have an explanation of why you can't be friends anymore. I wouldn't expect her to leave her husband though, unless he's just a terrible person. Especially since they've only been married a little over a year, she will probably think that there's time to work out any issues they are having. Since I don't know the details, it's hard for me to comment. But I do think you should tell her the truth and see what happens, just try to brace yourself for her to not act right away. Breaking up a marriage is a huge decision.
2006-12-07 04:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by Emily D 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is good that you have fallen in love, unfortunately, you have fallen for a married woman. I mean if you feel like you want to tell her then go ahead but just think how you would feel if you were her husband and another guy was expressing his love to your wife?! You need to avoid this woman if being around her is to painful. She is probably aware of this as well considering you are sure she loves you. But are you convinced she loves you as more than a friend? You and her should probably talk but I would honestly suggest that you find yourself a nice, unmarried woman.
2006-12-07 04:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she loves you, why did she marry the other guy? Or did you meet her after she got married? A year is not really a long time to give a marriage a chance. Is her husband a decent guy and do they love each other?
If so, do you love her enough to walk away and not let her disrupt her life entirely?
2006-12-07 04:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by carokokos 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know it's going to be hard. If you have a relationship with this person she will NOT leave her husband. You don't deserve to be a secondhand piece of ****. Stop and let the friendship die and move on to better things. You deserve sooo much better. Now go on get out there and find a single find! Good luck and happy holidays.
2006-12-07 04:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You aleady know this - men have 3 categories of women:
[1] Women we want to screw but haven't screwed yet;
[2] Women we have already screwed and want to screw again;
[3] Women too hideous to screw.
And we don't spend time hanging around [3]'s "being friends."
But man she is married - you're going to stab another brother in the back and dick his wife? Why - so she can go home and french kiss him with your j*zz still in her mouth? Or the other way around for you?
Come on - the only trim you want is already married? Buddy find another piece of poon to chase. That garage already has a car in it.
2006-12-07 04:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has told you that she loves you? Is her marriage unhappy? If she and this guy are content with eachother, you have no right to try to break up the relationship. If she is miserable, she may just lack the confidence to leave on her own. Go with your instincts, just realize that either choice you make could cause a lot of suffering for someone...
2006-12-07 04:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you say she "still" loves you what do you mean? Did you know her before and break up?
Just walk away, Rene...
You owe it to her to let her marriage have a chance. Tell her that friends is not a possible relationship for you, but you respect her marriage and her enough to walk away. If she doesn't love her husband she will let you know it.
2006-12-07 04:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to say, but you are "a day late and a dollar short." Regardless of your past, she has moved on with her life, and so should you. You no longer have the option of revealing your feelings. She is married, and you must respect that.
2006-12-07 04:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa. Your testosterone is showing... and no, back off. All of us are tempted, all the time. She is a married woman, and that means to you, "unavailable". Back off, dude.... you have no right to ask her to betray her marriage. How would you like it if she were your wife, and got invovled with another guy?? Nice idea, huh? Like a horse kicking you in the gut????? Sorry, quit being friends.......
2006-12-07 05:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are defenately a day late with a dollar short. Find youre own women one that is free to love you and you only.
2006-12-07 04:15:40 · answer #11 · answered by Marilyn R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋