how do you knw when to have sex?

Question

im 13 and i think im ready but i dont know

i have been with this guy for 3 yearz

i am not doing it because all my friends are im doing because I want to!!!

Answer 1

When you've finished school, have a secure job, have health insurance, can make your own decisions, can rely on yourself and mate to give your children a healthy happy future, and you understand what sex really is.....pretty much, work toward it responsibly. At 13, think about achieving higher goals, not bigger problems.

Answer 2

No darling, you definitely are NOT ready. You're only 13!!!!!!!!! That's 7 more years until you're 20, not even 21. Do you really think you're gonna find mister right when you're 14? Don't rush, it's no rush at all. You should have sex when you've been with a guy for a long time, you know him pretty well, know that you possibly want to stay with him forever, and have given him a chance to prove himself to you. Don't sleep with some guy at 13 or 14 or 15 or 16. They only want one thing and if you give that to them, you'll feel pretty bad because they won't want you anymore. NOT READY! Seriously, spare yourself the hurt and stay a virgin as long as possible. When I was in high school and still a virgin, a lot of the other girls I talked to said that they wish they were still virgins and that I should stay that way for a long time.

Answer 3

Sweetie.... thirteen! You aren't ready yet. I know physically you are.... but this is somehting that you will carry for the rest of your life! The rest of your life!!! That's serious stuff. You can't just pick anyone or even someone you simply like or think you love. That's why it's best to wait until marriage. Don't be in a rush to have sex... it isn't worth it. Plus, there are STD's, which not enough young adults know about. That stuff is serious and can make sex and life a pain.... and could possibly kill you. And, condoms don't always stop it from happening. Then you could get pregnant. And, well, you know how that goes. Trust me.... just be patiente and hold on for a while.

Answer 4

You're not ready sweetie, even though it may sound appealing. Do wait. You've got PLENTY of years to have sex ahead of you. Here are some ways to know if you are ready:

1. You are prepared to handle pregnancy if it occurs (and know how one does and does not become pregnant)
2. You are ready to handle an STD if it occurs (and knows how the various ones are transmitted)
3. You are on a reliable form of contraception
4. You know what a condom is and the proper use of it
5. You know what a dental dam is and its use in sexual relations
5. You are able to handle the emotionals issues that come with being intimate with someone

If you are in doubt of ANY of the above, then don't have sex.

Answer 5

At 13 you are most certainly not ready. You're not ready to drive, vote or drink, so you are not ready to take on the responsibility of adults -- sex and birth control. Are you ready to get pregnant and have an abortion or become a mother? Are you ready for all of the drama of a sexual relationship when you're probably still worrying about how you looked in your school pictures?

And if you don't know, then you are not ready.

Answer 6

You will just KNOW. If you only think you are...then you're prbably not! Before you have sex, you need to think about what you are doing : Sex is very important and should only be shared with someone that you really love. You shouldn't just do it with some random guy that you've only been dating for a couple week just because you want to know what it's like. Be careful and know that when you lose your virginity you will never get it back, so dont just give it to anyone... make sure its the right one!Also remember that having sex is how you get pregnant... so always use protection... to prevent pregnancy and STDs!

Answer 7

If you are unjsure, you are probably not ready. I had sex at 13 and I wish I didn't. There's so many other fun things you can do without having to have sex. Its just a really big step and at 13 I just don't think I was ready to hadle those type of emotions. What if the guy you do it with decides to dump you afterwards? I know it always seems like its love and it will last forever, most of the time it doesn't. It SUCKS having to pass a guy in the hall and know that I had sex with him and he dumped me. I even had a guy tell all his friends and then they would make fun of me at lunch. Just wait until at least 16, you'll be a little more mature and anyway, you have PLENTY of time to have sex in life, you are NOT going to be 13 forever, enjoy it while you can b/c once its over, its OVER and then you have to deal with adult life, which isn't as fun as it seems.

Answer 8

I think you should wait until 1. You're old enough to not get anyone in trouble legally (check the statutory rape laws in your area for the correct age) 2. You are emotionally ready (which I don't think you are since you feel the need to ask others if you're ready, not a sign of emotional maturity) 3. You talk to your parents about it. The last thing anyone wants is pregnant 13-year old.

Answer 9

Only you can tell if you are ready. There are questions you need to ask yourself. Are you doing it because you want to, or because your friends SAY they are? Are you going to do it woth someone who loves you and you love them? If you get pregnant are you willing to accept the responsibility? Is you partner ready to accpet the responsibility? Is your partner clean of STD's? How many partners has your partner had? 13 is very young to have sex, but if you truly feel ready, and are positive that your partner is going to be there for you, then you may be ready. In any case, i would talk to your parents, school counselor or an older relative that you feel comfortable with. Sex is a very big decsicion, and should not be takne lightly. Talk to someone you trust first and ask them questions about sex. Always ask questions! You need to know the severity of sex before having it! Good luck, and make good decisions!

Answer 10

At 13, you are NOT old enough to make such a decision. You mind is not ready to deal with the feelings and emotions that sex brings. You will have years of heartache if you start having sex so young, not to mention teenage pregnancy and STDs.