He is welcome to stay but can't because he needs specialized bedding. They live far away and I don't drive so it would be impractical to visit for a few hours, but he's angry that I'm going. I miss them and wanna go but don't want him to be upset.
2006-12-07 04:06:52 · 41 answers · asked by Stacye S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That sounds kind of touchy to me, but I would say that he needs to understand since he needs specialized bedding that he needs to understand you want to see your parents. So, I say he is being a bit unreasonable maybe in the future you could work it out s he could visit.
2006-12-07 04:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Frank R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go see you parent's just call them ahead of time and ask them if it would be okay with them if you can bring your husband's bedding. In "ANY" relationship everybody need to pitch in and help out. Take you husband it just that you are also going to have to take the bedding also. It may be hard to do but you will be with you parents and your husband in the same house or if that dose not work ask if your parents can come down and spends a few days with you. It would not hurt to pick them up and let them stay with you. Would it.
2006-12-07 04:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the specialized bedding is not too expensive, why not get that in your parents home for those visits.
However, they are your parents, and you should visit them. Unless your husband required around the clock care, he should be proud that you care enough about parents to go visit and spend time with them. I think he is being selfish if he does not approve of you staying with your parents. I wish my parents were still alive so I could go and spend a week with them occasionally.
2006-12-07 04:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by Hammer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey yuo love youre parents and you dont get to see them everyday. I think you should go and he has to understand nothing will happen to him if he sleeps a couple of night away. I understand missing parents I live about 2 hours away and thank god my husband has let me stay as long as a week sometimes, I love him soo much for understanding. Hey enjoy your parents know that they are alive we never now how long we have them.
2006-12-07 04:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Marilyn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong....you husband has to understand that if you haven't' seen you parents it's only right for him to allow you to do so. Yes, it's natural for him to miss you , but just because he's not able to go doesn't mean he should try to prevent you from going that's not being considerate, "After all it's not like you're hanging out with some old time friends or something that's the people who birth & raised you"! You have to accept the fact that you can't please every one.
2006-12-07 04:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by luv2bluv0712 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say, but I think that your hubby is being selfish. Why should you be punished for his needing special bedding. On the other hand, try to be sensitive to his feelings too. It must be upsetting to not be included in something like that. I think, though, that you should be able to go for the night. My husband would let me, if he knew how important it was to me. Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by bnsheerose 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've already married, so you have your own family life. Think about that is better than you still keep spoiled with your parents. Your parents have already let you to live with your new family and hope you will happy with it. They will appreciate you even though you just contact them with phone calls rarely. They will proud if you can live independently without them.
You're now a wife and may be a mother, you're not child anymore. Please grow up!
2006-12-07 04:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be allowed to see your family w/o the guilt trips.
I go see my family (4hrs away) during the week and stay a night or two w/o my husband. I go during these times because I work on the weekends and it's the only time I have available to go see them. He works during the week.
He is not really upset, he is jealous that they will have your time and he is pouting. Go see your family for a night. Have a good time and don't be guilty about it.
2006-12-07 04:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you visiting your family without him for a short while. Unless you go there every weekend, or stay for weeks at a time, he should have no reason to be upset.
2006-12-07 04:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 05:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋