I'm dying to have a baby.. the problem is with his low sperm count.. he is over weight...does nothing about it... not showing any interest in going and asking doctors... we went to an infertility clinic togrther..of course i insist on going to that appointment.. is it normal or he is careless?? shall I talk to him.. i don't wana hurt him??
2006-12-07 04:00:00 · 17 answers · asked by melody , 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
nanny: by being indefferent about the whole thing.
2006-12-07 04:10:14 · update #1
Maybe he is scared and because of the weight problem thinks he wont be around long to see his child grow up...it is very frustrating at times but please remember that it takes two. Try to talk more open about this situation also have him not wear under wear the heat from his body could be causing the low sperm count and sneak him healthier meals he doesnt need to know that it is less fat and try to reduce the carb intake good luck hunny we tried for 7 years and finally we have a wonderful little man keep your head up!!!!!
2006-12-07 04:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by Headie Who 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His sperm count may not be connected to his weight, though being over weight is never a benefit in matters of health.
Speak to him about how desperate you are to have a baby. Don't treat the problem as "his" problem. Any fertility problem belongs to both of you. Don't make it feel like you are blaming him.
My husband has a very low sperm count. When we were trying (20 years ago now) we opted for AID which was very successful. We have two wonderful daughters now. A low sperm count is not all bad news. At the time it was very stressful and distressing. Now 20 years on, never having had to worry about contraception, it doesn't seem nearly such a disadvantage.
2006-12-07 12:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I've been battling infertility a long time, and I've been in many support groups, and in many cases, the husband just is not a partner with his wife in trying to conceive.
Do you know for a fact that he really wants a baby? If so, then he is probably practicing avoidance. If he does nothing about it, perhaps it will just go away. And perhaps he is ridden with guilt because he is the reason that you are not getting pregnant.
But perhaps his doing nothing is his subtle way of letting you know he does not wish to have a child.
There are many ways that you can get over this hurdle. It may come down to you having to make appointments for him though I'm afraid. Between IUIs and IVF, there are lots of options for you. If he decides to get into gear, you should have no trouble getting pregnant with a little help...
2006-12-07 12:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by stacie b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that weight has anything to do with low sperm count. I would say that mt husaband is some what over weight and I got pregnant with our 2nd child after having sex only 4 times!!
I think you mean you went to a fertility clinic, not an infertility clinic. How do you know the problem isn't really you, are you sure it's him?
2006-12-07 12:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of 2 Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to have a baby?? Maybe he isn't ready yet. Or maybe he is ashamed of his weight and the fact that his sperm count is low. I think you need to talk to him. If he is hurting you by this then you need to talk to him. Even if he's hurt at least you will know what is going on.
And yes him being overweight can be a factor. I know this because my friend had the same problem and their doctor told her that her husbands weight was effecting it.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-07 12:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if the weight has anything to do with his sperm count. The best thing to do is abstain for a few days before your "fertile" days, then have intercourse. Just keep trying. Before you "discuss" with him his weight issue, take a good look at yourself first. Be gentle, men can be very sensitive and he may want even less sex. By the way, how is your husband "killing" you?
2006-12-07 12:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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I can tell you how to get pregnant and its real easy.You need to go out and buy an Ovulation Kit called FIRST
RESPONSE what this kit does it tests your urine the very first thing in the morning and when it turns BLUE then you can have a baby it does get you gender it gives you a baby. So Good Luck! It really works as I used it as my time clock was ticking and I have 3 healthy boys to prove it.
2006-12-07 12:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by ARRIVE ALIVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to have a baby as much as you do?
Try making it count. Don't have sex everyday. Only on the days you are ovulating.
If he wants to have a baby as much as you do ask him to try as hard as you are.
If he just wants to roll with what he's got, set down with the TV off and talk to him about your feelings. If he doesn't know how much this means to you, he is hurting you feeling with out even knowing it. You need to communicate with you husband. Remember that it is just talking. Let him tell you how he feels and make sure he listens to what you have to say as well.
Good Luck!
2006-12-07 12:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still get pregnant with him havign a low perm count...I did. You need to chart your cycle and find out the most oppurtune time for you...then have sex every other day around that time. You can help yourself along and take some fertility medication liek clomid. A lot of men don't like to admit that they have a problem..e.specially with one involving their manhood.
2006-12-07 15:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have sex too much too often his sperm count will go down even further. Would he be willing to put ice on "himself" to raise his sperm count?
You might want to click on the link and ask a real doctor. Good luck!
http://www.myphysicians.com/
2006-12-07 12:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋