I think its normal for people to feel uncomfortable around someone who is mourning over something that terrible. Some people don't want to burden you more, or think you want to be alone, or deal with it with family, I think when you don't know what to do for someone, you can tend to want to back away. It just sucks b/c that was probably the time most when you needed people around. If they actually were good friends and you think maybe they fell into one of the categories above, then just acknowledge it to them and hopefully that will get the ball rolling enough to start the friendships back up.
If you just wanna make new ones, if you have a Craigslist in your town, try the strictly plutonic section, there are alot of cool people out there looking for friends too, I met one of my best girlfriends there. Good luck! :-)
2006-12-07 04:02:21
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answered by Princess~C 3
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First of all, sorry about your child. I would imagine that your friends just don't know what to say to you and are uncomfortable around you. Probably the best thing you can do to help them get over that is to talk with them about the situation. I know it's kind of silly that you have to be the one to fix the situation, but that's probably the only way they'll ever address the topic with you.
You could also likely make new friends by joining a support group for parents that have lost children.
2006-12-07 12:01:50
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answered by alighier 3
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I think the hardest thing is that people really don't know what to say to you. Sometimes people are friends with other people like them.(ie kids the same age etc.) The big thing is just start living again. I lost two brothers in a car accident and saw the things my parents went through. Its the hardest thing ever and I know your hurting over it. Its not you that has lost friends because of this maybe just a new prospective on life. So take the ball and run with it. New friends await you just be yourself and know that the hard times are hard but good things await you in the future.
2006-12-07 12:01:38
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answered by Anonymous
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I am sorry! They should have been there for you. It could be that they just don't know how to react and maybe they feel they can not give you what you need. I would definately join a group of people who have gone through similar things. I know a large handful of parents who have lost their children, and they are the ones who really need support. Every one of them has had to deal with a kind of greif that nobody should have to deal with. :(
Hopefully there is such a group in your area. If not, I believe you could find a group like that online. People who have gone thru that will undertand your needs as a friend because they have the same needs.
Good luck and take care!
2006-12-07 12:03:26
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answered by Anonymous
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im very sorry for your loss. but you have to understand that its probably very akward for people to be around someone who has suffered so much they probably dont know what to say or how to console you. but since this was 3 yrs ago do you still dwell on the matter? are you depressed alot? if so this is why thier avoiding because they dont know how to handle the situation. on the matter of making new friends don let them know that this happened to you as soon as you meet them just talk about general issues. f the ques arises like do you have chlidren? jus say well i did have a lil boy or girl but he or she passed away but thier in a better place now. so they can see that your not totally depressed by ehat happened. i also wanted to say god bless you and jus remember that your child is still with you even tho you cant see them they may come to visit you. youll be reunited dome day. good luck and best wishes frm my heart to u
2006-12-07 12:02:17
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answered by Anonymous
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go out into invents! don't be negitive NO ONE wants to hang around somene who lives in the past and is always pointing out the bad in life!
It sucks badly of your lose.. i'm not sure if your bring this up all the time but the fact that you brought it up in your question of asking how to make friends or get the ones back just tell me you never got over it!
I understand it has to be hard to get over! but what do you want more! new/old friends or tears/depression from something you can't change!
coping.org should help you as well!
go take a class or voleenteer on something you like to make new friends!
2006-12-07 12:00:28
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answered by Anonymous
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They weren't your friends,... even tho it is difficult to try to comfort a friend when there is a loss, you find some small way of letting them know you love them and suppport them and you will be there.
Friends are there through the good and the bad...
These were acquaintances, not friends.
You will meet people, you must go out, get into a club of some sort to meet strong women, like a walking club, book club, cycling... or start one yourself... It will give you the incentive to pick up the pieces and get on with life...
Good luck....
2006-12-07 12:02:06
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answered by doclakewrite 7
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First I would like to tell you how sorry I am about your loss. Your friends might not know that they don't have to have answers for you, they just need to be there to listen when you need an ear, and an open heart. Talk to them if they mean a lot to you , let them know you miss them and need them more now than ever. Good Luck
2006-12-07 12:01:44
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answered by Anonymous
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Your friends probably don't know what to say to you to comfort you so the easy way out is to avoid you.
2006-12-07 12:00:09
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answered by Anonymous
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Well they werent your friends in the first place. Friends are there for you good or bad through the thick and thin rich or broke.
2006-12-07 11:59:25
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answered by mspleasurpalace 1
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