A few months ago, I caught my hubby talking to a girl on myspace. She lives in the same town. The messages were just flirty, but in the last message, he said he was gonna go and see her and get into some trouble so I know what that means. I confronted him and he admitted it was stupid to talk to her. However, I am so paranoid. Should I let it go? I asked him to call her in front of me and he agreed. But once the time came for him to do it, he refused.
2006-12-07 03:54:42 · 32 answers · asked by rowriter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless you have concrete proof or catch him in the act, I don't consider it cheating. Talking is one thing, but doing it is another thing altogether. Before you confront him, print out all the evidence and do a little more investigative work and have it documented. That way he has no excuses when you confront him. You might even want to save it in case you need it later and print out extras. The best thing I can tell you from experience is that if you have evidence and you have a gut feeling he is cheating, then you already know the answer to your question. The question is if you find out for sure that he has done something- will you feel any better than you do now? Pick up your head and remember that it is HIS fault, not yours; and he is stupid if he honestly thinks you won't find out. Just remember that whatever you choose to do in your situation, you are not alone. 70% of men cheat! I've been there and I got through it.
2006-12-07 04:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
May not be technically cheating (yet) but sounds like it is building up to it. However, it is infidelity and I personally would not tolerate it. I would send the "girl" a message and let her know 1) he is married and 2) that you know he is talking to her on-line and see how she reacts. Sounds like there is something more serious going on in your relationship that needs attention....the WHY he is flirting with woman on the Internet in the first place.
If I were you, I would step back and re-evaluate the relationship and what is happening between the two of you. Why is he "flirting" with other woman? Is this something he has always done? Are you okay with it and/or were you ever okay with it? Are the two of you growing apart? I don't know, just throwing out some typical suggestions.
Wish you luck on your situation.
2006-12-07 04:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea he's already cheated dear. I know women don't like to face facts but besides finding the condom on him and them doing it in the act, you have everything you need.
Why would I type a girl who is typing back and forth to me and say I'm gonna go see her and get into some trouble and not do it? Just because I like typing dirty messages? Nope. He's seen her and they have probably done the deed. The messages alone are wrong.
2006-12-07 04:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is still cheating... If he is having any kind of relationship with another woman that he can't be open about in front of you, then it's a bad thing... Start by asking him to call her (in front of you) and end it all, and request that he get rid of his myspace. If he isn't willing to do either of those, I'd find myself a good attorney. Because if it's not worth a small sacrafice to him, it's not worth a lifetime of suspicion for you...
2006-12-07 03:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is cheating. Any form of fantasy where he's going elsewhere for any reason is proof that he is lacking what he needs, or is just plain greedy and only thinking of himself, and not how much this is hurting you. Anyone that selfish doesn't deserve a happy marriage. Give him the boot. Sorry. I'm pretty much in the same boat :( so I know how you feel.
2006-12-07 04:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep Cheat Alert
2006-12-07 04:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. He shouldn't be talking to another woman in that manner. I mean how would he feel if the roles were reversed? Why does he feel a need to talk to someone else? Are there any problems in your marriage - maybe you should try talking with each other and see if there are any holes.
He needs to promise you not to talk to that girl anymore or any other girl in that way again or you will not stay. Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes that is considered cheating. try and talk to him i suggest you get rid of the my space. My space always help ruin a relationship.(trust me) then have him cut off all contact with her. if he refuses then honey don't give up you re marriage over something stupid like this. Try and talk about explain to him that you feel degraded and angry, hurt. maybe he will understand.
good luck.
2006-12-07 04:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think in your heart you already know the answer to this question. Follow that little voice and the woman's intuition that you were born with and you will know the truth, although all too often painful. You could always take his computer away ;) Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cheating. If he wouldn't call her then maybe he already did something or is still planning to do it. You can't make him not do it only he can. So, ask him what he think he's missing from you to make him talk to or be intimate with another woman.
2006-12-07 03:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋