One in four mother's give birth as a single mother, often these children are planned and are in a marriage before this happens. Also domestic abuse is far more common when women are pregnant too. Should we go back to the days where if a man got a women pregnant he would have to take responsiblity and marry her. Before men say keep your legs crossed (in marriage, where children are planned is a silly answer). Why do men run, what are they scared off?
2006-12-07 03:47:49 · 38 answers · asked by oceanwaves 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
to serin The study came from a hospital in West Midlands England. Secondly domestic abuse DOES increase in pregnancy her in Scotland my next GP appointment is to discuss that (everyone gets it). Also on your medical forms your are given the number for women's aid as everyone knows it is a well know fact!
2006-12-07 05:06:11 · update #1
These men you refer to are either children who don't want the responsibility, or don't want to change their self-centered lifestyle to accomodate said responsibility. Unfortunately, certain manifestations of these characteristics seem to be attractive for many women...hence, the great numbers that fit this scenario.
The next question is: Why are women attracted to such men, and why do they keep choosing to date such men once their character has been revealed? There is an answer...but that is a subject for a different thread.
Edit - King Wills III makes a good point, too.
Edit - Kelly M also makes a good point...but I'll add a slight twist to it. It's that some women are obsessed with "taming" these thugs into responsibility, somehow. They want the wild-man they see on TV, but want to somehow civilize him for herself. Not only is it a foolish idea, but it's also impossible to have a man be two different people. Either he won't change and will take off someplace without her (shirk the responsibility), or he will change and she'll no longer want him (and will, herself, leave).
2006-12-07 04:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by fishman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the women that are pregnant become so hormonal that they are impossible to live with. Somewhere along the line, women got this funny idea that if they felt it, it was real... and furthermore... if they felt something, they were allowed to say it no matter how damaging it is. Well, the truth is that being pregnant and hormonal is not an excuse to act like a child and hurt someone. No more so than cheating on a pregnant woman is OK. If you talked about the pregnancy and then you found out later that he really didn't want another kid, then I would have to say that you probably heard what you wanted to. Women have a way of applying pressure and making men 'give in'. If enough of that happens, it hits a breaking point and the man looses his feelings and leaves. Next time you want to discuss something with a man, make DARN sure you aren't coercing and you are really listening.
2016-05-23 03:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! More often these are surprise pregnancies where the guy wasn't really serious with her, just they were doing serious things like having sex without commitment!
How do you think the child will feel if they find out that the baby wasn't ever wanted? Too many of these single mothers are almost victims of they and the man they were involved with actions. I was almost in this situation. Being a single mom isn't bad completely, just harder a little bit financially but more so emotionally. And when the lady is currently pregnant, then physically as well. I pray for these types. They are often the ones bearing most of the consequences. So sad
2014-06-28 10:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sue So True 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women have maternal instincts from a young age unlike men. Having a baby forces a boy to grow up, and they don't often realise how much. Pregnancy can put a lot of tension into a relationship and often they cannot take the strain. Some men distance themselves and are frightened of the responsibility. They know they can leave, but the woman can't. A lot of the time children cause aruements, such as couples not seeing eye to eye on how to raise them, who should work etc, so unless these things are sorted before birth, the problem will be worse.
2006-12-07 03:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mostly for the same reason that women get hooked up and pregnant by those men, ignorance.
At the end of the day the vaste majority of men are dogs who would if they dared and could get away with it, 'know' any women its largely also a gene thing. Women have the joy/burden of carrying the child, she has always had to determine if she has a moron or a Homo Sapien for a mate. It is just unfortunate that a lot of women these days cannot seem to tell one from the other.
2006-12-07 04:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by farshadowman 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Men run because society lets them get away with it. It's all the rage now, in a culture where neither women nor men are expected to deal with the consequences of sexual intercourse. Obviously, within a marriage, that is not the problem. But, you know, these days if you don't want a baby, you just abort it. People fail to understand how having had that option for the last 30 years has slowly chiped away at the value of children, so that it's now very easy for some people to abandon children who have already been born without any feelings of remorse or regret.
Until society starts holding men AND women responsible for their actions, this world will continue to slip further and further into darkness.
2006-12-07 09:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Every-bodies different and everybody has their reasons for doing what they do, but how typical that you think it's the mans fault for skipping out. It couldn't be anything to do with the over-bearing, pressurising woman who asks questions just like this that drives the man away, could it? Or the typical "it's always someone else's fault" attitude that limits your ability to take responsibility for your own actions, thereby always thrusting the finger of accusation at others and causing constant tension? And getting married just because your pregnant is just a GREAT IDEA now, isn't it? You wouldn't happen to be someone who's recently had their man run out on her by any chance, are you? Genius...
2006-12-07 07:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by dsanchez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don t think its right are fair for a man to leave while the female is pregnant with their baby that s just not right im pregnant and the guy I M with trying leave me because he took words the wronge way so u tell me what should I do this happened to me three times and that s so wronge now they want to be there but I don t let them why would u leave me like that
2015-12-30 13:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by aletha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely they are scared of new responsibilities and changing their status into a DADDY...
It is very sad that so many women are abused and humiliated by men during pregnancy. It is unfair and just awful when they have to deal with such huge problems, usually on their own. However, I know there are good examples as well. My fiancee is very loving and would like to have kids, am sure he will be a good father.
I know there is lotsa evil in the world but there are good people-men in the world too...
2006-12-07 04:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by May 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ususal answers. However, women and the nature of the relationship changes with a baby. All attention is no longer on the man. The reality may also be quite different from the actual - very real baby.
2006-12-07 03:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Alice S 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋