My partner went to his works christmas party last night, and told me he was going to be home by 12am, he didnt arrive on time so I locked him out, am i being to harsh?
2006-12-07 03:47:11 · 32 answers · asked by KnOwLeDgE_iS_PoWeR 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have a baby who is 8 months, I have not been on a night out yet, and eveytime he goes out he is always late home!!
2006-12-07 03:55:07 · update #1
I think you were being too harsh, but I understand why and I have a suggestion for you. And it's all because I've been there. I'm not sure how you feel about yourself after having your baby but I didn't feel like myself. Having a baby is life changing and I think the incident last night has a lot to do with adjustments that have to be made due to your new arrival. I wouldn't suggest locking him out again, it adds way too much drama to the situation. What I would suggest though, is to get yourself dolled up, put on something very pretty and eye catching. Call up one of your girlfriends or go by yourself. You don't have to go clubbing if you don't want to, you have many options of what to do. Do something that will make you feel even more prettier. Oh, before you leave, tell your b/f that you'll be home by 12. And of course you won't be. The only difference is, call him while you're out and tell him you'll be late. You can talk until you're blue in the face but sometimes you just have to "show" people better than you can "tell" them.
2006-12-07 04:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by justtogetbi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how late, if he said 12 but didn't turn up till 6am, then yes, would lock the doors especially if he does it regularly. He probably shouldn't have given you a time as it was a party and you do forget time when your having fun! Are you just narked that you haven't been out and was left home with the baby or that he was late?
2006-12-07 04:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe...the question is was he home by 1 am ? Its easy to loose track of time when alcohol and friends are involved. One other option is that he decided to stay at a local hotel to avoid driving under the influence. Get the whole story before making a judgment. You can always lock the door later.
2006-12-07 03:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by ishootpix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation, on the surface I would say yes, you are over reacting, but what are your reasons? Why were you not invited? Has he cheated before, or stayed out late knowing it bothers you? What time did he get home? If he was just having a good time and time got away from him, then you should not have locked hm out.
2006-12-07 03:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I think you were being kind of harsh there. You should have called him and asked why he was late. Also, it depends how late he was. Maybe he was only 15 or 20 minutes late! It also depends if this is habitual or not. You should probably talk to him about it.
Good luck.
2006-12-07 03:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a bit! You know what its like when out drinking with mates. Taxi's are late in coming, you get talking to people and forget the time etc....... his mates were maybe pushing drinks on him or joking about being hen-pecked if he refused etc....... give the guy a fair hearing. Unless he crawled home at 6am smelling of perfume and covered in lippy, then talk to the guy!
2006-12-07 03:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by enigma64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, never say a time then you can't be late!! My advice to anyone! As for his reasons? what were they? did they add up? was he sorry? did he apologise? is this something that happens frequently? is there something worrying you about the night? a person there? Its a once a year do that people get drunk with their colleagues with...... Unless you have any reason to doubt his behaviour or you have been given a reason to be suspicious as to why he was late, I would just let it go... Life it too short. Is anybody dead?? no.... put life into perspective.
2006-12-07 03:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but you locking him out is just virging on the ridiculous!! He went to a party for gods sake..........Him saying he'd be home by 12 is merely a rough estimate, no1 knows fully how long a party is going to go on for!!!.........It sounds like you really need to lighten up, live a little and most of all get out more
2006-12-07 03:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't being harsh it was being childish. Its understandable that you were upset but give him the benefit of doubt. Maybe he was running late because he ran into an old friend or was just lost track of time. Next time ask him why he was late or accept that things happen and move on. It was silly to get mad at him.
2006-12-07 03:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would be much more affective to talk to him about it in the morning and tell him how you feel about him always being late. If it bothers you that he is always out, compromise, but why give him a time to be home?
2006-12-07 04:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋