How do I keep my ten year old daughter, Who looks 15. From falling for the B.S. of teenage boys.?

Question

My ten yr.old daughter looks 15 and is attracting older boys. Thank god she is disgusted by this right now, But I know it's only a matter of time. And I remember how bad I was with girls, As a teenage boy, I tossed alot of B.S. to girls. And alot of them fell for it. And this scares me. Please, All Ideas are excepted.

Answer 1

Unforetunately you can't. I raised my 3 daughters as a single dad. My solution was to beat the crap out of the first boy that came around. It set the tone. My youngest still says that boys talk about "the crazy dad". Good Luck!

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel!!! I also have a ten year old that looks way older than what she is.. I see teenage boys looking at her all the time. I just look right at them and say "Shes 10 okay". And they ,of course apoligize but it is not really their fault to look at girls that they think are pretty.But DO sit down and talk to her about it. I did with my 10 year old, but she also has two sisters one is 14 and one is 16 so they also tell her about the boys!!! They definately stick up for their baby sister.!! I wont even let the 16 year old out on a date yet unless she takes her sister...LOL.. If their daddy was still here then i would have NO PROBLEM... But he is in a much better place with the Lord!!. I think that make the two older ones watch out for the 10 year old more too...Good Luck to ya !! Raising children this day and time is such a HARD JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

The thin line you want to walk here is not to make her distrustful of all boys.

Among other things, you should definitely have a rule that your children (all of them) aren't allowed to date until they're 16. This would give her some protection from boys when she's most vulnerable...of course, it can be hard to enforce if she's interested. You do need your spouse behind you to make this rule work!

Talk to your daughter yourself and tell her a lot of this. You WERE a teenage boy, and you know what they're like...and what they're after...and what they'll say to get it. Be brutally honest with her. Try saying "Someone who truly loves you will not put your future at stake by pushing for something you don't want to give." It's never too early to talk to her about sex...some kids are having sex at the age of 11-12 these days (!!!!).

Another option is to make sure she's got a lot of friends and a good self-esteem, so she's not wanting the attention so much. If she can get interested in a hobby (especially) - something taxing that uses a lot of her time and energy - she'll be less likely to seek out attention from guys. Think gymnastics, piano, horseback riding, something like that.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Explain in detail what the B.S. is and how it works. You're "opening the playbook" and preparing her for the "game".

Find examples of girls who fell for the B.S. and how it's just "bad news" for them. This may be difficult. Look "locally": friends of hers? children of your friends? Otherwise, you'll have to find articles in magazines or online. Just an idea.

Tell her about the serious consequences of relationships when she's too young. Yes, STDs and pregnancy. Tell her that *boys* will not stick by her when things get this serious.

As a compromise, allow her to go out on social outings but only if an adult is present or nearby. Sounds corny, but you have your reasons, and that's reason enough.

(Also, watch out for late-night phone use. Kids are tricky that way.)

Answer 5

Keep pumping into her self respect and the knowledge that there are bad people out there who will lie to her. The more you talk to her about it the more aware she will become. Just don't over do it and make her not trust anyone. Tell her how long it takes to get to know people before they can be trusted. And again, keep pumping the self respect issue. The stronger she is inside, the stronger she will be outside. Help her develop high expectations of herself. I know it is a lot for a 10 year old, but I am a guy and I know exactly what you are saying.

Answer 6

So here's the scoop there Todd my boy. Sit her down with your wife (or girlfriend of that may be the case) and have a heart to heart and tell her what guys will say in an attempt to get into her pants. Explain the value of a good reputation versus a bad one and let her know that bad reps spread around the school like a rash.
If you lay it out in an intelligent way you can't go wrong. At least she's been told.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

When the time comes, take the bull by the horns and tell her like it is, hold nothing back and when you're done tell her what you wished those girls would've told you when you were handing out all that B.S.

Answer 9

Be straight with her. Tell her there are a lot of bad, selfish people in the world who want to use others. Tell her teenage boys are more interested in sexual pleasure at her expense than in pursuing a meaningful relationship. Tell her how to respond to come-ons. It is your responsibility to give her the tools she'll need to defend herself.

Answer 10

I have a 15 yr old that looks 20 and has since she was 12.You have to believe you have instilled good morals in her most kids are smarter than we give them credit for