Its been 8 months since I broke up with my husband, he tried to work things out 3 months ago but I was not ready, I was still hurt. Now I need him more than ever and I feel healed. I call him and e-mailed him and he is not responding. I love him, but am afraid he moved on. What can I do, hes all I want. I still love him like the de first day.
2006-12-07 03:40:14 · 23 answers · asked by lilis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is not answering your massage's he probably move on, and you should do the same I know maybe star seen people its hard at first, but then he would be out of your head in no time just put your mind to it. Trust me I did that same, you will find someone way better.
2006-12-07 03:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by babylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep being persistent and do not give up hope. Also, pray. Did you guys get a divorce already. Anyway it goes, God honors marriage and if you keep praying, things will turn around. Even if he has moved on, I think that he will eventually come to his senses and realize that he needs you in his life. I was actually on the receiving end once; I seperated from my hubby for a good reason at that. He did not want me to leave. A few months later, I wanted to come back, but at that time he did not want to because he enjoyed not having to answer to anyone and he told me that there was someone that peaked his interest. That went no where with the girl. I just kept praying for what was best and we eventually reconciled. He tried to act as if he did not still care for me when we were seperated, but he did. I think he was just afraid to get his feelings hurt. Again, do not hold your feelings back and tell him how you feel. However, be patient. It may take a little while for him to come around. If he is not responding, than you may have to back away for a little while. I do notice that when you ignore men, it gets their attention. But it is very hard for me to do. Give him a little space if he is not responding to you and he will start realizing some things.
2006-12-07 11:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by rowriter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ma'am you left him and that gies him the right to carry on with his life. Now i know thats a hard bitter pill to swallow, but there had to be some part of you that said that it was a mistake to be leaving in the first place or you wouldn't be here asking this today. Cudos to your husband for keeping his cool and laying low. Wish i would have done the same. Sorry about that. Look here it is, chances are he's getting the e-mail and messages and all, but the fact of the matter is us guys have this thing located in our gut that gets all tight and stings a bit, well alot really. It stings a lot, and pride can kill you and chances are his pride is getting the best of him right now and i wouldn't try to contact him right now just let it lay low for a while and see if and when he'll respond. Another thing i have to say from experiance is. Don't let this become a habit. Trust me that pride can only take so much before he snaps back on you and really makes you look like a fool when he says "You didn't need me before the split, I don't need you NOW." Those are some hard words for you to hear. Just like when my ex said "Honestly Sam, I thought you would be okay with this." I replied with a "SURPRISE!!!"
2006-12-07 11:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Sam E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have moved on.
You should realize that YOU were the one who broke up with him and that when he wanted to try again YOU refused. You're not the only one who was hurt in this.
There won't be much you can do if he moved on, but you should definitely find a way to tell him about your feelings and talk things out. There's really no point in leaving things unresolved so you can dwell in the thought that it might still work out. In the end you will not be able to move on unless things are 100% over.
Good Luck though, hope things work out for you.
2006-12-07 11:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Seitanist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh sweetie, I am sorry you are having a difficult time. But you may need to let your ex know that you still want to be together, and then walk away. Let him come to you if he wants to, but be prepared for him not to.
A breakup is very difficult, you have not shared any details about it, so I can't offer any predictions, but you should send him a letter explaining your feelings and asking for his forgiveness, and or asking for him to come back to you.
But again, 8 months is a long time, it is possible that he has moved on, and if he has then you owe it to yourself to do the same.
I know that, this will strike you as "that's easy for you to say" but it is true. I broke up with the love of my life just a little over a year ago, I asked her to come back to me, and then i left her alone, let her chart her own course. She came back to me eventually, but it took time, and she had to do it without me pushing her to do so.
Give it a try sweetheart there is nothing to lose here, but just know it may not work out the way you hope now.
Good luck and if you need to talk feel free to drop me a line.
2006-12-07 11:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried to work on things for 3 months I don't think it's going to happen now. If he isn't responding to you then I would say let it rest. You will probably get a better response if you stop all contact. It's time for the healing process now for YOU. Try to keep busy and get your mind off of it. Also start enjoying the things you like to do..like hiking, skating anything that is fun for you. Also start pampering yourself like with bubble bathes, get your hair done, manicure, pedicures etc. It's now time for you to move on. Once you comfortable with yourself go out and start looking for another mate. Good luck to you and happy holidays!
2006-12-07 11:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be patient. 3 months ago is not long ago and he still loves you if he did then. Just like being single, you don't want to appear too needy (even if you feel that way). If he needs to apologize, then he still needs to, even if you forgave him and want him around.
Do you know where he lives? Can you show up at his door? Try that and maybe a little bit of drama and romance wouldn't hurt anyone.
2006-12-07 11:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its' important to take time for yourself and realize what you really want and if the decision to take him back is made mostly out of your fear of being alone, (Usually it's harder around holiday season). Try and surround yourself with family and friends that will take you out and get your mind going in a different direction. If he decided to move on than so should you. Obviously he has not responded to your efforts of communication. Take time to get to know yourself and focus on finding your own path in life. If they two of you are meant to be together it will happen, if not, well, his loss, Good luck, be brave, you are stronger then you know.
2006-12-07 11:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try writing a serious letter from the heart and give him some time, It is very difficult for the both of you because when he wanted to reconcile ,you were not ready and that hurt him very bad ,now that you are ready doesn't necessarily mean he is still not hurt.Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-07 13:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is what u want and u feel healed, than go to him, and tell him what u are feeling, even if theres a chance u may get rejected. maybe he is thinking about it, and needs some more time. but don't give up unless u hear it from him personally that he has moved on.
2006-12-07 11:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋