My best friend and I used to be very close, but now that she and her boyfriend have moved in together, she seems to have little time for our friendship. I have been quite depressed recently and have felt I've had no one to turn to - in fact I don't think she is even aware of this fact.
Should I confront her about this, and try to work things out? Or should I let it go and concentrate on strengthening my other friendships?
2006-12-07 03:36:42 · 15 answers · asked by Lulu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
a little bit of both, make sure you keep the friends you already have while you work on the poblems you have with your best friend. you two should schedule a get together/ date type thing, so that you can rekindle that relationship!!
2006-12-07 03:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to do some soul searching i once had a best friend who felt i left her once i started a relationship but you have too know that people change things change and it's ok just because she has a boyfriend doesn't change your friendship just find new things to do with you free time maybe find a boyfriend of your own so you's could double date but really i don't think confronting her would make a different so much for you if you's were really good friends she'll come around she's just trying something new and relationships take time i think if you start to LOVE your self more it wouldn't feel so weird to you you'll see in life that you mite at one time or another have to down play a friendship for a new guy yourself once again it's not that you wouldn't want to still be friends it's just that you now have a guy taking up your time
hope things work out for ya
2006-12-07 03:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Toni H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's normal that she is a little less interested in hanging out with you now that she's moved in with her boyfriend. As you get older priorities change from friends to significant others. I don't know if I would directly confront her about this but you should make an effort to call her and go out places with her. Perhaps a double date would be a good idea. As for strengthening other friendships, that's a great idea too.
2006-12-07 03:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People go through changes in life and when they meet that special someone they seem to only concentrate on that relationship. Right now I would look to strengthen my relationship with someone new and let her make the calls on your friendship with her. This does not mean to condemn her but to back off and understand that you will be a good friend to her to call her once in awhile just to talk. She is concentrating on making her relationship with her boy friend work out and is spending all her time with him. If she spent all of her time with you this relationship would not exist.
2006-12-07 03:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by dandls_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strengthen your other friendships and relationships in your family. When you meet someone and fall in love it will be normal for you to, over time, focus more and more attention to your partner, which is the way it should be. I used to hang out with my best friend every day, now we see each other about once or twice a month. She didn't like that at all when she was single and wanted more time, but my wife and kids are #1 in my life. I wish I could be there for her more, but that's the way life goes sometimes.
2006-12-07 03:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's like George Burns said: "The most important thing in any relationship is honesty. Once you can fake that, you've got it made."
Adhering to this sage advice, there are some things that you simply shouldn't dicuss with your friends. If you kjnow that you have a strong opinion on it, and sho does she... And you are pretty sure you aren't going to change her mind about it, then leave it be. You were friends before this, you will last past it. Boys will come and boys will go. Your friends are your friends no matter what. Take care, and don't let anything as stupid as a boy break up what sounds like a great friendship.
Take care.
2006-12-07 03:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confront her. Make her feel what you're feeling, that she's spending lesser time with you. Slowly, but surely. Hey, her life can't revolve around her boyfriend xD And yes, you can strengthen your relationships with others, but 'do not' lose your friendship with the friend that's spending lesser time with you. I'm sure you'll be able to work things out with her! Good luck;)
2006-12-07 03:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your friend's shoes. It's really tough when you have a romantic relationship that usurps your good friendships. But you have to give them space to let the love bloom or play out. Let them know you miss them but understand their needs. Trust me, when the new love evens out, they will be ready to spend more time with you. Just be patient, loving, and understanding. That's what they need from you now and soon enough, you'll be in that position too...and need patience love and understanding from your friend as well. Be the friend that you would want!
2006-12-07 03:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by none 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is in a new pahse of her relationship and you will just need to be patient and make the time she gives you special... She will still be your friend.....
I would concentrate on your other friendships..... for now...
2006-12-07 03:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by JohnS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**sounds like she makes use of you somewhat if one minute she needs to talk to you continually and then the subsequent she purely needs to stroll away. do no longer say that there is lots greater people greater efficient than you to be acquaintances with, because of the fact it is not authentic. you may no longer placed your self down like that. So what once you're a nerd, would not make you any much less of a individual. Why do no longer you ask her if she needs to flow to themovies with you sometime and notice what she says.**
2016-10-05 00:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋