I been with my bf for 10 yrs...cheated this year. I think I got a minor STD...I'm afraid to tell him. I am getting treated and will stop having sex for a week...I dunno what to do! I feel lost and scared and ashamed. He treated me badly for 10 years and for 3 months he's been good. Should I tell the truth and leave b/c I can't face him knowing he knows the truth or should I keep my secret till my grave and keep my 6yr old, 2 yr old, and 1 yrd old happy and stay with their father. Psychics...will he find out? Will he get it? Is it better I leave now? Puhlease help me!
2006-12-07 03:33:13 · 6 answers · asked by SexyMommi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
keep it quiet , do not tell him
2006-12-07 03:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by bayareart1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do Not tell him,
You've been with him for 10 years, and have 3 children,
He will never find out if you never tell anyone, and keep this under wraps,
Be smart and think about your family,
Its not just you in this life.
Keep it under wraps.
TEll no one.
He will leave you if he knows.
And your kids will resent you,
Make sure you treat your STD and try to get him checked out to,
this way you don't keep passing the infection back and forth
Its possible he's been nice because he knows he gave you the infection and not your lover,
This disease may actually be the cure to your relationship.!!!!
2006-12-07 11:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first...
If you have an STD, and you've had sex with your man... don't you think there's a chance he got an STD too? His finding out, because of this all by itself, is quite likely. Also...if he doesn't realize he's got the STD.. what health issues does that present for him?
Two: Be honest.. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS be honest. It's hard, it's difficult, it sucks... it's going to hurt him... but he'll respect you more in the long run for coming clean.. Think of it in this way... If you're not honest, and he finds out... do you really think he's going to stick around? Do you think he'll trust you? At least if you come clean, he'll realize that you KNOW you made a mistake.
Fact is, you cheated on him... that's going to hurt him...and he may not stay with you because of it. I know that's a hard truth to face.. but you made your choices without thinking of the ramifications...
Suggestion.. if you have health insurance, you have therapy sessions available to you. Have a session with a therapist. Explain to the therapist that you want to come clean with your man. They will help you find a way of doing that... and I would guess, that the therapist may offer to have a session with both you and your man where you can discuss this issue at length.
Good luck....
2006-12-07 11:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor and get it tested. For one thing, you should always do that. It may be nothing...or it could be something you can treat and eradicate. If you catch it quickly, it may be nothing to worry about - health-wise, at least.
The question of your infidelity is something you're going to have to deal with. Certainly, it WILL hurt your family if they find out, now or later. You probably want to make it clear to your lover that it's off - never going to happen again. And then you should talk to a therapist, counsellor or priest and figure out what you feel you have to do. Honestly can be good, but your boyfriend may never forgive you, either. It's a tough choice, and one you need to make yourself.
2006-12-07 11:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a psychic. Either you know him or you don't and you stay with him for the sake of the kids and he treats you badly; think about it; you are showing those kids a bad example of a loving relationship. I say get rid of him and show your kids what true love really is and what it means.
They have to know it does not mean what you are doing.
2006-12-07 11:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is a good chance he my not it is harder for Amen to get it from a girl then it is for us to get it from them.but can u live with this secret you have or will it eat u up inside you should have thought of your kids before it happen you can no longer come first you made the chose to have kids. it sounds like u are just thinking of yourself.leaving u did the cram to the time
2006-12-07 11:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by KISS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋